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Dorianne...your comment is insulting to all those that had their loved ones rushed to death...by the drugs...mixture..and it seems the focus is on the elderly..but..hospice takes,care,of,all,age,group..some are not elderly...and some are overdosed ..misdiagnosed etc..there is good and bad..don't insult those that had the misfortune of having a bad experience...and FYI...Americans are now the least educated of all the western civilization countries..
And btw..my brothers home hospice nurse..right after he was OD handed me some Lorazepam pills..in case I needed them..I did not report her..but I disposed of them..I know their effects..side affects..and know how dangerous they can be..and from an SNP analysis..know I can't properly metabolize them..same with my brother..besides being illegal for someone not a doctor to give someone meds who is not a doctor..and one never knows potential side affects...but..for the most part..all the home hospice nurses were very attentive to him..including the one who OD him..per the Nurse practicioners drug dosage instructions...not her own decision...  with his best interest at heart..with only a few..who were clueless..
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You just discarded the pills? You didn't have them tested? Did you take a photo at least? How do you know it wasn't Tylenol? How do *I* know it wasn't Tylenol? At least you didn't flush them, I hope, or throw them in the dumpster. Fish and racoons like to live too.

It sure seems curious to me that law enforcement hasn't caught on to this epidemic of "murder" yet.
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I went the the website. It's self-referential. Cites works I can't find. Takes information about of context. And being quoted in newspaper doesn't mean it's an endorsement, or makes what you are saying a fact. The only possible thing of interest was a report from several papers from 2016 that an FBI agent wrote in an affidavit for a warrant that a nurse reported that Brad Harris, director of Novis Hospice ordered her to overdose four patients. Harris seems a pretty slippery customer, as he basically turned Novis into another hospice with a different name while awaiting trial. He was charged with " He was indicted on 11 counts of health care fraud, one count of conspiracy to commit health care fraud and three counts of unlawful distribution of a controlled substance related to prescriptions such as morphine....Some people died because of those overdoses, according to the indictment." However, this appears to the final charges. justice.gov/usao-ndtx/pr/sixteen-individuals-charged-60-million-medicare-fraud-scheme The case has not yet gone to trial.

A charge of fraud, which certainly included not putting the patients' care first, which has not yet come to trial, seems flimsy evidence to damn an entire medical and nursing practice.
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meallen,

That's right and Mr.Harris has never and will never be charged with murder, even though it has been proven that they did murder some. He will only be charged with the fraud crimes he committed. They don't care about the weak and vulnerable. After all "they were going to die anyway".
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"In the end, neither side of the aisle has done anything yet of significance to stop the medical killing of the terribly vulnerable, very young, very old, or disabled and ailing. There may be hearings about conditions in the skilled nursing facilities. There may be posturing, but nothing serious has been done to protect them. And yes, these individuals are absolutely being killed in very large numbers.

The Congressmen know this, but it's like the old story of the Emperor with no clothes: nobody dares to speak the truth about the matter publicly. They hope that the "obvious goes unseen" by the public. They know it and they are glad for it. They know that the large number of lives ended will help reduce expenditures for Social Security, Medicare, Medicaid and other services to the elderly and disabled."

-Ron Panzer, "Stealth Euthanasia; Health Care Tyranny in America"
Subtitle - "The Government Loves Hospice"
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That's right and Mr.Harris has never and will never be charged with murder, even though it has been proven that they did murder some. He will only be charged with the fraud crimes he committed. They don't care about the weak and vulnerable. After all "they were going to die anyway".
How can it be proven if it hasn't gone to trial.

Please show Panzer's proof--statics from a reputable source would be helpful. You are quoting from a book written by the web-site's owner. That is self-referential. Do you have any training in evaluation of sources or statics?
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Meallen,

Please do your own research. Stop relying on me to provide all the answers for you. You can go to the book and there is plenty of proof/resources provided there.
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Dorianne. it is not an epidemic of murder...and it was not their intention...medications...drugs..amount..can have different reactions in different people...some don't manifest its side affects immediately...Hospice provides needed care..and it a difficult profession taking care of weak..sick people and not everyone is educated..or experienced as they should be...as in any profession..and sometimes bad things happen..but it is the exception..just wish they wouldn't rush the drugs..in the dosage that they do..in a short period of time...and differentiate between having pain..and give drugs..to showing no pain and anxiety...and not give increased drugs..

I am glad that you care about nature..as I do...and I do not believe in dumping meds..even otc meds into garbage or toilet...as this goes into the environment..poisons nature..water system...and back into food sources as well...and back into us...

The home hospice nurse per protocol..destroys all left over meds...and needs a witness that it has been done..so it was done in front of me...I am familiar with the pills..and they have markings..and it came straight out of the bottle..she thought she was doing something good for me...but it was not good to do..this is my point...why would I take photos etc.? I suppose In her mind that particular pill was insignificant...but to me...it was a substance I didn't want inside me...so alright..ok..I will say it was Tylenol...
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"Please do your own research. Stop relying on me to provide all the answers for you. You can go to the book and there is plenty of proof/resources provided there."

That is what I have been doing. I find no support other than your site.
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The Flat Earth Society is a sterling organisation of elective awkward squad members, Dorianne. I won't hear a word against them!

I also flatter myself that it's a sign of mental independence that when comedians lazily turn to allegations like "in Grrrr! County Mississippi it's illegal to study Statistics" - or whatever improbable bylaw they've managed to dig up from the early 19th century - I now demand further-and-better particulars instead of hooting or gasping with horror on cue.

The whole debate makes my heart heavy. No, not every hospice and not every end of life experience is all it should be. Some will have crossed a line. And professions do close ranks, too: only yesterday the General Medical Council dismissed an appeal for the reinstatement of a Paediatrician who was convicted of gross negligence manslaughter over her grotesque neglect of a learning disabled child from whom she withheld treatment for a simple, but ultimately lethal, gut infection. Note, her professional body was *defending* her, on the grounds that if she were permanently removed from practice it would deter others from admitting to their mistakes. The GMC took the view that this wasn't a mistake so much as an absolute dereliction of the most basic duties, and I dare say they profoundly hoped that there won't be any parallel cases for it to be a precedent for.

But then again, it isn't a matter of any government blithely accepting - let alone actively encouraging - the mistreatment of vulnerable, dying patients. It's a matter of their needing a better answer, if this one's not working. And what is the better answer?

Not giving morphine to a person even if she does have a broken arm, apparently. That was in her best interests... how?
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Yes. I had the same problem with my mom. Alert one day and then sleeping throughout the day. We felt that the morphine was causing her to sleep way to long. My sister decided that we would have someone there throughout the day to watch closely and monitor the dosage. Sure enough they were entering the room multiple times to administer the morphine. My sister told them to not give anymore morphine. The nurse became very agitated and said if we refused we had to leave. After careful thought, we did just that. We signed papers saying that we refused the hospice care. We called for an ambulance and took mom home. Mom woke up after the morphine wore off. She was so happy to be home that it brought tears to our eyes. She was alert again and the ambulance driver said her vitals were good. The family watched her throughout the night. We did return to the hospital after a couple of days because we didn’t have a full time nurse. A case worker at the hospital helped us get into a nursing home that had a good rating. Mom stayed there for months. So yes. They decide on the time. They know how much to give. We had faith in God and the help of Holy Spirit to discern what was going on there and we moved her by faith
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What a strong testimony, FaithInHim! I'm so glad you were able to save her.

Your story is a lot like Carly Walden's. Her grandmother was being overdosed by a hospice. She revoked hospice, called an ambulance, and a police escort.

It took her a week to wake up from the drug induced coma she was in.

That's been three years ago now, she is still alive and thriving. And, Carly is now a board member of the Hospice Patients Alliance, a Prolife, patient advocate organization, founded by a hospice nurse, turned whistleblower.
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Prolife, your little sockpuppet accounts might be fooling some folks, but they're still nothing more than your sockpuppets.
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Prolife, it would be better if you contact your State Senators/Congresspersons and your U.S. Senators/Congresspersons and let them know how you feel regarding Hospice.

And also contact the National Institute of Health and let them know that their information is incorrect according to your findings.

Otherwise, nothing is going to be solved by posting your material on the forums.
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I'm with CM.This whole debate just makes my heart heavy and it's bringing back so many bad memories I have. My Mother set a record with her Hospice Company for being on their service 3 and a half years straight and there were good things that happened and bad things that happened in that time. I could go on about A LOT of things with Hospice, but it's not going to help anyone and that is what I believe this site, Agingcare is for, to help others,not hurt others~
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I just want to point out that there are many people commenting here claiming to be nurses and giving medical advice.

I have just learned from a medical mal practice attorney that a nursing license does not permit you to give medical advice.

Only a doctor is lisenced to give medical advice.

If you are diagnosing and prescribing treatments and making recommendations, you are giving medical advice, and this is illegal. 

I have seen many doing this in these forums.
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No one is giving medical advice. Sharing information is not advice-giving.

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Prolife is a troll who has infested many threads on this forum in order to manipulate people's emotions for the purpose of (in his/her mind) furthering his/her personal political agenda.

If Prolife were truly interested in doing something about this issue, he/she would be busy lobbying legislators and other decision-makers, and wouldn't have the time to post repetitively in a single forum. Prolife is clearly only interested in provoking reactions and disrupting conversations, and is probably enjoying him/herself very much.

In my real life, I've known a couple of "pro-life" (in this case, anti-abortion) people who've gotten kicked out of their local activist group for being problematic and disruptive, so they've taken their energy online to troll people where there are fewer consequences for their actions.

I'm sorry some of the threads are making people's hearts heavy, but it's quite clear things were going fine until Prolife came along to disrupt supportive conversations and drag all of these hospice threads under. If the moderators would ban Prolife's IP address (this site IS supposed to be non-political), these threads would probably return to some kind of normalcy.

Personally, I'm not one bit sorry for mocking Prolife, because he/she is a big faker who goes around making up new accounts (sockpuppets) on AgingCare.com just to troll us all with more obviously fake "testimonies."

Emotional manipulators are among the worst kind of people, and he/she ought to know some of us see right through him/her.
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Also to add, for lokiloki: I am sorry if my post felt insulting to you. It was not my intent to insult you, and I apologize for making you feel that way.  My post on chemtrails and such was actually meant for the purpose of mocking Prolife.  And I shouldn't have gotten flippant at your reply, either. 
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I am surprised by much of this string. My mom is on Hospice, but lives in my home. If I don't like the way she reacts to a med, I don't give it to her and tell them so. They have never pressured me to continue anything I didn't want to give her. 

My mom has stage 7 Alzheimer's and while the hospice did bring morphine in the start up kit, I don't give it to her. She is not in pain so why would I? You need to monitor and control the situation. Why would you blindly follow any plan you didn't agree with? Do your homework and then decide what is best. 

Mom has been on hospice for 11 months now. I thought they might kick her off because she is still with us and doing as well as can be expected for where she is in the progression of the disease. They say that they will keep helping as long as they can within Medicare guidelines. I love our hospice regulars, the CNA, nurse, social worker and doctor. They all agree with me...I do not want to do anything that will force my mom's failing mind, and therefore her body, to stay on this Earth any longer than it will....I also don't want to force it to leave any earlier than it will. Hospice has been so helpful to have involved as I go through this process with her. And for the record.... She may be here a few years or a few weeks.... When the Lord decides, she will leave.
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Dorianne..thank you so much..I really appreciate it..my nightmare is..did I do enough ..and what could,I do ..so many unknowns....was their sudden rush to drugs wrong..was he really dead..since his eyes were pinpoint ..not dialated..should I have rushed him to the hospital..ie..911..to hydrate..(I have seen my old dogs live for months after receiving it..and of course they were old..he was sick..so)..and Re diagnose him etc..his eyes were pre jaundice...but ..seems now from recall..theynhad been that way for months..so white..with a bit of yellow at the base..so my sorrow is of so many what ifs...and being so tired and sleepy..and having inexperienced home hospice nurse and nurse practitioner..not that they meant to do him in..just that..well..they were not really trained in these things..as I was not..anyway..your though means a lot to me..in time..it will be a distant sad memory..life..death..never easy..never fair..and many times..so many unknowns..we can only do what we can do..
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(((((lokiloki)))))

I've spent years second-guessing myself and "what-if"-ing, after losing my dad and my stepmom, and several beloved pets for that matter.  I do understand. 
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Prolife is a TROLL who has infested many threads on this forum in order to manipulate people's emotions for the purpose of (in his/her mind) furthering his/her personal political agenda.

If Prolife were truly interested in doing something about this issue, he/she would be busy lobbying legislators and other decision-makers, and wouldn't have the time to post repetitively in a single forum.

Prolife is a big faker who goes around making up new accounts (sockpuppets) on AgingCare.com just to troll us all with more obviously fake "testimonies."

Prolife is clearly only interested in provoking reactions and disrupting conversations, and is probably enjoying him/herself very much.

Prolife is obviously a very sad and lonely person with nothing better to do than troll caregivers online. 

I urge everyone to remember this when you decide whether or not to engage.

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Please feel free to copy and paste this message wherever/whenever you see Prolife posting, so as to warn others who may get sucked in by his/her trolling.
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I just want to say what a blessing this site has been to me with my mom's long drawn out illness. Please don't attack others for their questions and concerns. We need to remember that we were all in a lot of pain which can cause a lot of anxiety and feeling of helplessness. Kindness and respect are the only things that should be on this site dogabone
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Well said, Grammyteacher. On home hospice you are in control of the doses. No one should allow any health care provider to proceed to treat their loved ones if that provider will not listen nor discuss the family’s concerns.
That said, it is the responsibility of the family member or CG to give permission to hospice- an informed consent needs to be signed prior to hospice service being initiated. It is a delicate balance between medicating enough or overmedicating. No provider can predict the body’s response to any medication. The dying process is complex. Often a dose may be sufficient on one day but given the same dose the next can be too much due to the body’s natural progression into liver or kidney failure that happens with death. Electrolyte changes can occur. Metabolism changes occur.
Hospice is not an exact science. Once you have checked a blood pressure or pulse you need to react to it- which is probably why hospice patients vital signs aren’t checked more frequently.
Hospice is not ordered arbitrarily nor without consult between more than one provider. Usually the hospice patient is documented as being terminally ill determined by medical testing and physician evaluation. The person is determined to be dying and comfort measures are recommended.
I do believe, and this is from my 35+ years of being a RN, that families wait too long to make the decision to enroll their loved one in hospice thus the patient does appear to die faster. I have seen this so many times.
I have also wondered why we can put our pets down with dignity and peace but allow our loved ones to suffer unnecessarily at the end of their life due to the family’s comfort level & not wanting to let go. That’s a bit selfish as like it or not, all of us will die. It’s a natural process.
Prolife’s opinion doesn’t bother me. He/she has the right to feel and express their opinions on hospice. Is it a perfect process? No. Is anything in medicine always perfect? No.
Sure there are episodes of misuse and medication overdose or hospice staff gone awry due to inexperience. Unfortunately perfection is not guaranteed anywhere.
I did choose hospice for my mom when she was end stage, dying, post stroke. Was she overmedicated? I don’t think so- the night she passed (I was asleep in the empty bed at her NH) the nurse spoke with me after and said she did come in to check on my mom and to give her a dose of medication but the nurse stated she did not feel like a dose was necessary at that moment as she assessed my mom not to be in discomfort. So...every hospice provider’s objective is not to automatically overmedicate.
I would choose hospice again for a dying loved one.
Prolife in my opinion should get credit for looking into hospice abuse. I do not like the fact that prolife uses a broad brush to paint all hospice staff as angels of death because IMO they are not. I don’t like the fear he is injecting into a very delicate and personal decision. But nonetheless entering hospice is the kind of decision that should be made weighing both sides, so that’s fine with me. Just please don’t use fear as a tool to block a needed service that allows people to die with dignity and in comfort.
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Definitely, Shane. My mom has been on hospice for 11 months now and we have needed to make many changes, additions, etc to keep that balance. I definitely would not allow my mom to sit in pain... Each of is makes the best decisions we can for our LO and I think others opinions are fine, but their judgements should not be used to hurt those doing the best they can. I also think if you choose to be the caregiver making the decisions, you have to stand up and say no sometimes. I had to fight with an er doctor once and tell him absolutely not to keeping my mom, and no to pumping any more drugs into her than he already had... Finally forced him to call her neurologist who backed me up. We have to say no sometimes.
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Hospice has been the answer for my mom. Sometimes keeping your loved one out of the hospital is a top priority, especially when they have dementia. It is like hell for them. I promised my mom I would never take her back after the last visit and I have been able to keep that promise. She is dying now peacefully in her own bed in her home surrounded by loved ones. She is 90 years old and has lived a full and beautiful iife.
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My grandmother died in Jan 31 in hospice. She was there only 3 days and they gave her medicine that had her leaned over like she was on morphine. She specifically told me to bring her pain pills, but the hospice decided they would give her some trial drug. She did not consent this not want to be or mind altering drugs. By the 2nd day n hospice she told me the meds to bring even as she was slumped and out if it, then on day 3 I called her and as she was talking to me, I could hear the doctors say "nd Robinson you're throwing up." They took the phone from her and said the doctors are with her. I immediately drove there and she was dead. How could she be on the phone with me and throwing up and not even know it. Something is not right about that. Something they gave her made her unconscious while she was conscious.
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Your grandmother's family has a right to have exactly what happened during her time in hospice explained. Whichever person acted as her healthcare proxy or advocate should contact the hospice provider or director or manager and request a meeting to discuss what took place. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you will have all your questions answered.

You might want to edit your post and remove your email address. People can contact you through your profile if they want to do so in private.
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The same thing happened to my mother, I am still crying over it. Common sense. Morphine and all those heavy drugs that are out there will kill the person one organ at a time. Once addicted the person doesn't want to eat or do anything else. Their only desire is for the drug that will eventually put them in the grave.
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