I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Aside from this website, I had never heard of UTI in the elderly causing SO much turmoil. Between and her part time caregiver, Lisa, we've tired to come up with activities to keep her calm without too much medication. Not saying I am not pumping her full of antibiotics!! Those things are a lifesaver for me right now. Who knew? Certainly not me. Hopefully she will be somewhat back to "normal for her" in a day or so. (please please please) I have to once again, realize that she will never be the mom I knew... but thankful she is still my mom. Oh good grief... I hate being so cliche about this. I HATE IT and what it's done to her, my late father and all of us kids. Those smart ass scientist better hurry the hell up as I do NOT see this lessening... I actually see it increasing in the elderly. Let the pharma's make kabillions as long as it saves our loved ones from dealing with us, like we are with them, in the future.
I'm so worried about Boni.... ARGH!!!
gillead sciences ( pharm research ) started up in 96 i believe . they plan to pursue illnesses that are defying a cure . id sure like to see them turn their attention to dementia victims . too many old people suffering , crap qol and eventual death .
All I want is a good night of uninterrupted sleep. please please please....
Jeanette, bless your heart. I know how hard it is. There was only one good thing I could see about it. At least it wasn't on the carpet. I know that is a small comfort. UTIs are evil for people with dementia. My mother had a bladder infection once that took 10-12 days to clear. These were the worst days that I can remember ever going through. I hope things return to sanity again for you and your mother soon.
Not sure just what the heck is going on right now... maybe it's mom UTI?... whatever it is, she has not been near herself for days. First time ever I caught her in the kitchen, pants down, peeing. :( Tomorrow will be her 3rd day of antibiotics, please... please... her anxiety is at maximum including her tapping one leg at the speed of sound. Damnit we both are at our wits end here...plus sleep deprived, including mom. I just want to cry.... what am I doing wrong?
spent 58 bucks today = bummer
but for the 58 bucks i got the single kitchen sink i wanted with delta faucets ( salvage ) plus got me a northstar cherry tree . the ones im propagating , if they survive will take 5 or so years to bear fruit .
to make the day better i took edna some cooked apples tonight . i swiped 6 of em from the tree in front of nh . i dont know what the h*ll they are but its the best tasting apples ive ever cooked -- so i swiped 6 more .
the kitchen remodel is going to happen but only as virtually free materials " materialize " .
Your suggestion to explain is a good one, but sadly, she is past the point of understanding explanations. That's why I'm such a control freak now.
I didn't mean, btw, tell her what the passwords are (deleting 1-click was among the very first things I did when I got my paws on mother's computer), I meant explain why they're out of commission so that she stops trying to make them work.
Books. Groan. NEVER introduce her to the Folio Society, that's all I can say :(
Mom had a great check up and her hospital bed is coming Wednesday. I ordered her a new flat screen tv for her bedroom and it's coming Wednesday too. She is looking through catalogs for a new bedspread, etc and instead of her feeling bad about having to be in a hospital bed, she is feeling happy about "redecorating" her room.
My brother picked up his son from school and told him they were going someplace special where he loves everything there. (pet store) His replay was " YAY! WE are going to Grandmas and Bonis house!" Made Moms and My day!
I wish you all a wonderful day as well. Take your joy from the little things, and let the big things go.
This woman should not be anywhere NEAR the internet.
FF if my dishwasher wasn't working for five days I'd think it felt like 30 years..!
I tell you, if it wasn't for this website I would have made a major issue over the dishwasher's time frame... I reminded Dad it was only 5 years ago, then redirected him as to when he and Mom will be getting a new one. Looks like they won't as since it is only the two of them, they rather hand wash the dishes. Well, that's their choice. Glad Mom has Dad helping her in the kitchen :)
I have did not one single darn thing today. Well, I did manage to feed everyone. Other than that. Nada. Yesterday we did a lot of work getting things put up and away for winter. My young yard helper, myself and even mom. Chris has this puppy, a 9 month old. Now this puppy is related to the wolf who played White Fang. He is 3/4 th wolf. Beautiful 110 pound puppy!! We decided to introduce his pup to my dogs and take them to the park at the river. They have a giant enclosed area just for dogs. They ran and ran, played and had such a great time... so much fun, except... mom got it into her head that people where trying to kill her :( this poor elderly man and his 4 lb dog got cussed out. She used the f word several times. Another older couple were there with their 2 gorgeous collies.... mom was crying to them. She would not sit on the bench with us, she would not calm down, she was frantically trying to find a way out of the dog park. sigh. We left and drove through the park to the boat ramp so the dogs could cool off in the river. Sat mom on a giant boulder in the shade... she was somewhat calmer. People pulled in from their float ...mom started again, they were so nice... one guy even offered mom a beer... he said "here grandma" have a nice cold beer". Boy did he get cussed out (normally she would have flirted with him and drank the beer) another older couple and a cruiser bike pulled in.... the look on their faces when mom shuffled towards them. I explained she had AD and no I wasn't trying to kill her just trying to get her to enjoy the after noon and let the dogs do something besides lay on the couch.
That took everything emotionally out of me. I guess I am supposed to sit in this house and die. Ha, nope, don't think so. It was a freaking nightmare though...sigh