I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
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Barbara51, I hope you are feeling better and you get this thoroughly checked out. This is a stressful heart tugging life we are living right now.
Mom had a slightly better night. I checked on her before I went to bed and she was sound asleep. When I checked on her at 4:00 A.M., she'd apparently been up for awhile. All of the clothes in her closet were on the floor along with her comforter. Guess who was curled up in it all? Yup, mom. I don't think she fell I think she just laid down and went to sleep? I woke her up, helped her to the restroom and back to bed. She was up by 7:00 and now is sound asleep in her chair. She needs the rest so perhaps I will just let her be for awhile.
Seem like things are progressing rather quickly lately. Her speech is just jumbles (most of the time) her appetite is half of what it was so she's losing weight. She is a lot weaker than she was 3 months ago.
I am not ready for all of this.
She did make a funny jab the other day. She was really cranky and the young man who helps us outside was trying to laugh her into a better mood ( she really likes this young man) he told her to "knock it off" (meaning her crankies) mom replied "Knock what off? Your head or your ass"? ROFLMO!! We all laughed, even mom!
Had to laugh/snort about the podiatrist post. dad's called today to see if we could come early, they had cancellations. Well.. hurry is not in Dads vocab.. but we upped the visit to 11 from 1130.. and sat, and sat,, until 1145! really?? But we did find out mediwhatever will pay for one pair of special shoes for him every year because of his diabetes! So WINNER!! Going to get the fitting and all next visit.
Soooo sleep deprived and no, mom still hasn't went down for the count. I think her lack of sleep has made the hallucinations that much worse. It started last night with the crying...no crying today just talking about people outside that aren't there and something about what she has to do.... it's like she's planning her death. ALSO. Normally she asks about my brothers visiting her or lack thereof. She's not mentioned them ONE SINGLE time since oldest bro brought her home 7 weeks ago. She's forgot I get so whiny and sniffly when I haven't slept. Everything is tenfold of awful.
My eyeballs hurt.... from reading some of the awful things a poster said on this thread today.
One thing I have noticed, it depends on which vehicle I use as to whether I get tailgated. If I use my significant other's big old Jeep which has towing hooks on the back, rarely does anyone tailgate me :P
when I help mom into the shower, lord she stinks.
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(disclaimer: This is a joke, don't make me give an ER ;))
dont feel alone .elder care is in no way comparable to child care . only a few months before my mothers death i was so stressed and miserable that it was affecting the atmosphere in the home . were not born knowing about dementia , bipolar , schitzo disorder , end of life care , etc . empathy makes up the difference . imagine you were the one who had worked hard their entire life , had a nice home and a few bucks in reserve , then it all meant nothing because of a medical diagnosis of months to live . as a loving carer all you can do is make those few months as enjoyable as possible . just f in do it is what im sayin .. its the most important calling in your life and youll emerge better for having done it . if the zanax are causing more trouble than theyre worth , send them to me . ive been chomping then down since my wood cutting days in the great sahara forest -- we all know how that turned out ..
Spoke later to director who said they wonder and will do dip test tomorrow on urine for a UTI as they said he his going to bathroom a lot. And he gained 10# since moving in last month not counting the 10# he added this spring! So they will watch his food intake and I am going to buy some larger pants. Maybe a full moon event? Will see him tomorrow as I forget to check the length of pants he needs. Hoping today's issues won't resurface.
Maybe I will give one of those soothing sounds machines a try... she's cuddling my oldest dog (18) in her chair now... I'm gonna be super uber quiet. Lack of sleep makes everything that much worse. sigh
Veronica, why does he keep the appointments secret, only to ask you to remind him the night before?? LOL
At the begining of the year I purchased a huge callender which I wanted to put all his appointments on but he prefers to keep them a secret till he asks me the night before to make sure he leaves the house on time. Not a very important whine but I feel it is the sign of things to come
Another whine I was clearing stuff out in the kitchen yesterday and found a pile of at least a weeks mail tucked away from last Oct when I was hospitalized for two weeks. It included several bills and a couple of bank statements. Explains a lot.
I usually make sure I get the mail everyday and deal with it immediately to avoid just this problem