I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
i have no fear of being rejected by her because the card im sending is purely meant to alleviate her pain somewhat and make her feel better about herself . shes smart enough to know the difference between someone whos trying to take advantage and someone who truly empathizes with what shes experiencing .
the woman knows as a professional you just dont use a customer for personal therapy . i still sense that she felt she could trust me and was trying to tap into my age , life experience and thoughtful mannerism . no harm can come from a thank you card and a bike ride invite ..
man of the year
she asked me when im going to let someone in after 15 yrs alone -- prob'ly when i meet someone who sees herself and myself as equals . we went to different schools . mine didnt actually have a brick and mortar building ..
her hubby reminds me of al coopers song " man of the year " .. at the end of the song man of the year eats a bullet .. great tune , youall should check it out ..
It is exhausting. It is NOT for the faint of heart. Add 100 degree weather and 2 small portable A/C's....
looloo, it was FUN, it was FREEING! I love the water, love being in the water with the warm sun ( guess this is why I love and miss FL)...I love being outside. I also love my mom and guess this is just a small price to pay for her happiness before she passes over?... if only I could find something to make her happier? About what works and not works, you are correct and win a prize!! We don't know what it is until smack dab middle. Frustrating.
kaz, I have found zero contact with siblings is so much easier , on me, them and mom.
That does sound scary -- the increasing paranoia and agitation. If only there were a warning system for sudden changes in people with dementia. We never know what works or what no longer works until we're smack in the middle of things.
Took her, my bff and our 3 combined dogs to a fun day on the river. Dragged her heavy yet comfy lounge chair and parked it right close to the bank and in the heavenly shade. Lots of people, kids and dogs all splashing about being social and truly having a great time. It was a great socialization experience for my big pittie...she did so awesome!!
I've been training my big pittie "water rescue" in my wal mart blow up pool so I thought it would be a great time to actually try it out. This particular spot on the river is where a lot of tubers/floaters come in. As they'd come in I'd hand them the bamboo stick tied to hear harness and she would pull them right in!! Yay!! I was soooo proud of her. Since she's so big and a pit/mix she "looks" intimidating but is actually very loving and playful. All the itty bitty kids in the river lined up so she could pull them around in the water:)))) Anywhoo..... I tossed this one group of tubers her robe/stick.... instead of holding onto it they tossed it further, now Sydney loves to fetch so off out into the deeper current she went, chasing her stick LOL!! Off I go after her cuz downstream she's heading..... 200 yards later we laughingly drug up out of the river.... 6 kids behind us in their floaties making sure we made it. What a fun TIME. Now....back to mom....she decides she wants to go home NOW!! Nothing we say or do will calm her down.... the Hispanic family sitting by us offered her a Corona with Lime :) she took it, took a sip and told them she hated it. She was threatening death (this is normal) she wouldn't sit still and every 3 seconds was attempting to walk towards home. Home is 6 miles away, good luck mom! My friend was exasperated by the time we left, me? I am used to it... it is just another day. When we get home she is really really having a hard time... just meaner than a rattle snake!! She flooded the kitchen out, kept trying to escape and later that evening (it was dark) I caught her gripping the pointy meat thermometer like a weapon. Not sure if she wanted to use it on me or her but it was rather scary. It was way after 1:00 A.M. before she settled down enough to finally sleep. Woke up at 10:00, took a few sips of her Ensure, complained about something.... then fell asleep in the recliner. I have noticed a lot of new changes occurring at what seems an alarming speed. Food decline, weight declining,speech and mental abilities declined further, agitation irritability increased and sleep increased.
The big fist is clenching my insides again.
i gotta get one more cup of coffee and get out to the farm . those guys keep putting good firewood in the burn piles and its driving me nuts . i drag it back out for myself ..
you can have the greeting card you want printed on zazzle but theyre kinda expensive . i have one coming for the dental hygienist with a pic of ike , myself and the kids on it . its hard to invite her to go riding on something she cant even envision .. ike is camera friendly -- i look like the third guy from the left on the evolution chart ..
that's my whine!!
heres my song........."sisters sisters blah blah blah sisters" you know the song something about not being able to live without your sister????? CRAP!