I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I cant stop laughing! i told him NOT to call me anymore if he gets it i really dont want to hear any more about his clients!! STACKED UP HERE!!
So stressful theres always some crap to make your day of course if she wore the blood things this woudnt happen but oh no they are in a box or a basket or another bag SOMEWHERE?
Need a drink! If i dont find them A shes going to drive me buggy with the volume on TV. B she has to travel 20 miles to have yet another mould of her ears then the six to nine weeks wait for them to get here but hey they are FREE! and C my brother will disappear until she gets it back again he has zero patience oh but HEY hes in denial!!!! Mums fine bro? this is the 4th one shes lost in 2yrs?
Blueberries are very good for your eyes a handful a day but they are quiet expensive here but i get them when i can!
My whine - my vision my cataract t must be getting larger or whatever they do it's going to be a long month+ before surgery. Also lots of road construction-it's the season for it and no one pays attention to the lower speed limits in construction zones and people drive about 2 inches from my bumper as I drive the limit. It you are in a hurry it's not my problem!
hey moderators ; over here -- a free-be ..
Today i thought was going to be a good day? sun was out (and its payday) so before i went shopping i put on a big WHITE wash of my clothes ( i do not mix mums clothes with mine but why bother?) came home and went to take in my nice CLEAN clothes at first i thought those bloody birds BUT NO! there was poo all over them yeh mum must have had poo on her hand and touched them sorry to be so graphic but i feel sick! I know gross! i could see the evidence as her pjs were in the sink soaking so she must have had it on her hands and then went and was touching the clothes on the line? LIKE YOU DO WHEN YOURE NUTS!
So mad but i know its not her fault its just so gross! NOW WHAT ask my friend if i can use her clothes line OR get a washing machine and dryer for my bedroom???
Hey lets see if we can go just ONE day without a whine?? then the winner gets a box of chocolates????
FF good on your mom 96 bless her gosh if my hearing only starts to go at this age ill be happy!! mums hearing went 3yrs ago and its getting worse and shes only 77?
I believe part of the confusion was that Dad was in the hospital overnight last week because of a fall and now he needs physical therapy at their home, thus strangers in the house, and plus my Mom's hearing has become much worse even with her using an updated hearing aid. Plus she can barely see. OMG why on earth are they both still living in their single family 3-story home !!!!
This morning I was telling Mom I made an appt with their primary doctor to see her and Dad.... Mom doesn't want to go because she can't hear, thinking the appt was only for Dad's fall.... once again I mentioned it's her and Dad's semi-annual physical.... she still either didn't understand or couldn't hear me.
Then she was worried about their car, the battery keeps dying... my significant other and I have it all worked out on how to get the car to the mechanic next week... told her don't worry about it.... we can use another car to get her and Dad to the doctor appt.
Mom did perk up when I said I will get her grocery list this afternoon.... then she was acting like the old Mom I knew.
haveta go get my teeth cleaned today . i guess thats why i worked sat and sun , to cover the lost workday . gotta trade up one of my chainsaws . its new but lacking the horsepower i need . gonna get skint on this deal .. takes a long time to make up a loss cutting wood for 10 bucks an hour ..
Yep mums been passive/aggressive all her life am so drained now want to go back to spain and sit at that pool!!
Florida is lovely and loads to do there.... besides having my son and great friends there :)))
Hope, how's the new hospice carer doing? I'm starting the search for one today, not hospice but someone to come in and have fun with mom and clean her area....
Now...the whine.. Awful day yesterday, and I mean AWFUL. She was all over the place, physically and mentally. Up at 4:00 a.m. wandering, moving things, strewing things all over the house.... up again at 7:00 with THREE care packages over the house???? What the hell happened within 24 hours? She's had a GREAT week and whamo.... I've been gagging all morning.... headache and eyes are stinging. She's halfway back to "her" normal state.
Dad's helper it does indeed sound as though he is reaching the end. Many people towards the end dream of loved ones or even think they have been visited sometimes it is loved ones and sometimes complete strangers.
With COPD not being able to breath is very distressing so don't be afraid to give the morphine it will provide a lot of relief. Dehydration is not painful and some believe it can actually release endorphines which make the patient feel better.
Soda and alcohol are not very good things to be drinking so it is good he has stopped. Are his legs and feet swollen, if so and he is not taking a diuretic (water pill) ask hospice for a prescription because fluid may also be building uo in his lungs which make breathing more difficult. Also does he have oxygen? That will also add comfort and make sleeping easier. When he can't feed himself would he alow you to feed him? as long as he is interested in food provide it but once he doesn't want it do not try and force it. Maybe a suppliment like Ensure would be easy to drink. Unfortunately the dying process with COPD is not fast or very pleasant so be generous with the morphine and ask for a larger dose if it is not working. As long as it is increased slowly you are in no danger of killing him with it.
Morphine is extremely constipating so make sure you ask hospice about giving him laxatives. Try and maintain whatever has been his normal bowel pattern. he just won't have the strength to push if he gets constipated and an enema will also be hard on his breathing. If you have to take him out for any reason make sure you take a dose of the morphine with you. If your were given a dropper ask the hospice nurse for a syringe. it will be with out a needle and given in the same way but convenient to slip in a purse or pocket
Just be there for your father. The clamminess reminds me of mom when she was close to the end. But I thought it was cold sweat. Her skin was so icy cold, yet she was sweating profusely. I didn't know this was one of the signs. But this had happened several weeks before her final rest. {{Hugs}}