I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
my sis and niece absolutely couldnt help with mom on sundays because of church routine . does any one else see the hypocracy in those priorities ? let the pill chompin sinner watch her today ..
.she is driving me up a brick wall
Is there no volunteers that could just cover for a few hours i know a few women here that do this here from the church for hospice?
I will light a candle for you and ask someone higher to help you get a break from somewhere! i dont know how you havnt burnt out by now! mum is nowhere near this level of care and i was warned to take a holiday or else?
I met an old school pal today asked how her parents were? fine great marvellous????? Oh slowing down a bit but still playing golf they are both in thier eighties? I didnt say anything I just couldnt but i wanted to scream BULLY for you!!
Hang in there Hope your life will start again soon!!
And even my blood was boiling when i read that family are warming thier butts in church when youre being run ragged??? shame on them yeh like god cant see that?
Things are looking up for me! biggest mistake was telling mum though she will be counting every penny i spend! but i like to tell her good stuff its not often we get much luck here!
Im only staying nearby but she dosnt have to know that!! texted my friend and shes keen so looks like a good wkend ahead!
I feel high things are getting a bit better for me ive been skint for 5years and now a holiday and this!!
Lovely thing was guy in the shop hugged me as he knows how hard things have been for me nice when others share your joy!!
Funny thing is i knew something good was going to happen today i could feel it!!
i went through five years of h*ll and even though i was stressed i had no idea how stressed until my head was about to burst one day and i had to get down on the ground as the whole world was shaking and i wasnt moving bad trip wasnt the word!! of course my dad had just died so i think that was "the last straw" it was probably the best thing to happen to me as ive let go of alot and refuse to let myself get that stressed again its hard but i had no choice!
Pity you havnt a few bob (BOB) come over here and have a real break greener than green mountains and wild oceans youd love it!! Guinness and turf fires with irish diddly music in the background!! And id get mum to make you beef stew n dumplings!!!
Glad you had a good sleep Cap thats your body telling you to slow down a bit youve been through alot and as much as we think we are doing ok the body will let you know you aint!
What happened to me was five years built up thinking i was coping? sometimes i think we get a wake-up call and i know that one was mine your health IS your wealth!!
im learning some things right now about the importance of restful sleep in combatting stress . last night at sons house i felt physically and emotionally ill . it was the stress of events in the last few days , weeks , months , years , not the least of which was elder care and loss of my mom . my liver was enraged but i knew the hepc hadnt returned , there was no liver swelling , just agitation . son gave me two zans at bedtime , i laid down and the next time i blinked my eyes it was daylight and i felt like a newborn . i dont have a zan addiction ive just always used ( abused ) them to make my workday fun , focused and enjoyable . never thought of using them for sleep purposes and indeed would have considered that a waste . jeanne told me to fix my dumb a** a few weeks ago and i listened . its sleep and nutrition that i need even if it takes medication to get the sleep for now .. im just trying to tell you guys what a full 8 hours sleep did for me . ambien gives you 4 hours , its not enough . good sleep rebuilt me over night , never mind how i got there .
Yeh life is strange but its nice to have a friend to have a coffee with once a week who is going through what youre going through!!
Yeh funny you get out to escape dementia and end up talking about it to a stranger but i could see she was delighted to have that chat!! meant alot to her so made me feel good!
Crown in heaven, eh? Not a dunce's cap? I'd swap it for a week's formal one-to-one training from Teepa Snow.
You reckon we'll miss it when it's not there? Hmmmmmm…
Any WHY do they always pick the worst possible moment?
(And when would be a good moment…?)
You are not a joke. You are having a life: this life. It's just a bit shabby at the moment. In fact, appropriately enough, it is poo. But time marches on, and venting helps, and hearing other people vent helps even more, and this too will pass. Thank you for making me feel a bit more normal and a bit less like a drama queen-cum-evil sarcastic nut job. Big hugs.
PS I ignored all beeps and got my salvia planted after we got home. Dug proper planting holes, added compost and everything! It's only taken me a fortnight to get round to it...