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Hallelujah! Mom finally showered today after nearly a week!
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No whine today about mum had a great day in fact WHY? because she had to act at the docs today and is totally wiped out now!! shes gone to bed!!! ME TIME!!
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thanks susan i googled bee sting and no it cant be that as it was 2 days ago? so no his breathing is ok no swelling so i cleaned it again with teatree oil wipes and green puss came out seems to be drying up now but hes fine a bit depressed but eating ok i think he was attacked by cat as his nose is a little scratched. Poor little pet i think the fly just scared him as flies always pick on wounds. So far so good hes asleep now but am watching him just in case. Teatree oil is great and seems to have drawn out the infection but i will take him to vet if wound dosnt heal!

Oh dear cant cope with this now as hoilday next week and ive never been away from him that long but my sis is here and shes been warned to look after him OR else.

Breaks your heart when your little pet is in pain!! id probably be a basket case if i was a mother!!! but hes my baby!!
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Kazzaa - keep a close eye on your cat. If he seems to be having difficulty breathing AT ALL, take him to the vet. I would be more worried about an allergic reaction than an infection. Most likely, he will be fine, but keep a close eye on him for the next 24 hours. If he is going to have a reaction, it will happen relatively quickly.

If you can *see* the stinger sticking out, take something with a flat edge, like a credit card, and gently scrape across the top of the sting to try and get the stinger out - DO NOT squeeze the site of the sting or the stinger itself - you will inject more venom into the wound.
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Big whine today!! Does anyone know if i should take my cat to vet?? i thought he was attacked by another cat but now i think maybe it was a bee sting as when he was eating a fly was buzzing around him and he ran upstairs and hid under my bed?? Hes eating ok and going out BUT im worried the sting may cause infection or worse? is there anything i can do in the meantime as really dont have money for vet but will go if i need to.

I have teatree oil wipes that i cleaned his head with? its a bump that seems swollen so a bit worried?

I know if its a person you could take the sting out? any animal experts there like Ashlynne?
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somedaysmile im with you! my friend got angry with me last night and said get her fkin name down for NH now her mum had als and she said your mum is getting worse everyweek so it could take six months to get her in there.
We are all here for you and i know its time for me to move on with this i cannot live like this im miserable and NO mum would never want that for me.

Hugs this will be hard for us all but its the right thing to do for all concerned i dont want to end up resenting mum because even a 47 i feel my life is over sometimes.

I am so excited about Spain next week but nervous aswell as one sniff of freedom will just make me more determined when i get back to have my life back again i have to get back to being me ive lost a bit of weight but its not easy when theres nothing to look forward to at the weekends i need to get out more and get fit but comfort eating is a big part of this job if youve no other outlets!

Hugs we will be with you every step!! God sounds awful but its like inmates keeping in touch when they "get out" of jail!!
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I do the flag cake for the 4th (usually, probably not this year) this way:

Sliced pre-made pound cake layered in a long casserole dish
Top sliced cake with crushed berries (crush earlier in the day and add a bit of sugar or sweetener to bring out the juice - it soaks into the cake - yum!)
Top berries with Cool Whip or other whipped topping
Slice whole strawberries in half lengthwise and lay them in rows across the top of the cake like flag stripes. Add blueberries in the upper left corner as the "blue field with stars" (the bit of white whipped topping showing through the blueberries looks like stars).

It's always a hit. No baking, no huge mess to clean up. Make it a few hours ahead of your event to allow the flavors to blend.
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Veronica; Go to store; buy a pound cake. Get a can on whipped cream. Frost cake with whipped cream. You can use maraschino cherries, strawberries, whatever for red and some blueberries for blue if you're so inclined.
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Yesterday afternoon, completely out of the blue, I caught a stomach bug! Was up most of the night. Yuck. Better now, but not much interest in 4th of July food. Well, my taste buds are! But my tummy is saying not to :)
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Veronica91, any baking turns into a science project that turns bad. I am already stressed out, I would be a basket case if I had to try baking my own cake :(
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freqflyer you don't have to be Martha Stewart to buy a pack of cake mix and some readymade frosting. So back to the grocery store and do what you can. A yellow or white cake mix from Betty Crocker or Duncan Himes will do the trick along with a foil disposable cake pan if you don't own one
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My 4th of July whine.... went to 2 grocery stores trying to find a nice red, white & blue cake or cupcakes that my parents could easily eat.... would have loved to have found a nice white cake with red/white/blue frosting and none of those sprinkles or stars which are too hard in texture for my parents [who are in their 90's] to eat. Everything I saw had those hard candy sprinkles/stars. Came home empty handed. Martha Stewart is am I not, so baking it myself is out of the question :(
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I was thinking the same thing, Somedaysmile and Susan. It can be sad to read the despair others are feeling, probably because it makes us more aware of our own.
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Somedaysmile - keep us posted. Please take care of yourself. You're doing the right thing for both your mom and for yourself.
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Kazz yes I got the needle in my foot ,calf,hand and arm. Yes it was a needle but not at all bad. all done in the name of ruling out nasty diseases like lou gehrics. Dr seems satisfied now so it's on to PT to build up my strength to see if that helps. most of it is old age and O/A
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JessieBelle; me too. Alone with sleepy mom and everyone is out having fun .... It sucks. I'm thinking I'll start walking tomorrow. I've gained weight watching mom and feeding her fatty foods. Tomorrow I think I'll start taking care of myself like I use to. I'm going to visit a NH or two and begin to make plans to place mom somewhere besides with me. I'm going to take myself to lunch and ask around to people about job ops. My real mom would not want me to suffer anymore. I have to do this before winter because I get really depressed in January thru March. I truly believe I will become an alcoholic if I wait much longer. I just can't watch my mother sleep all the time and lose her mind any more. I've read all these posts and I feel bad for us all. But I love my kids too. And my grandkids. They miss me. Mom calls me by different names now. I don't think she will remember me once she is in a home where they can take care of her w/o my resentment and huffing at her. I'm getting hatefull and I don't think mom desires that either. I want to be a daughter not her tired grouchy boss. I'll let you all know how it goes.... I'm done.
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Oh glad! my brother and my mums friend play along with her which i find really annoying and get mad with them!

Mums aleep and im drunk!! had a GOOD night with friend and a few laughs!! mums seeing geriatrician tomorrow GULP i know shes going to actout her best performance yet? so worried i hope he has some answers!! Hugs deep breaths!! wine,crack,maryjane whatever it takes!!
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OK my whine, consider my blood curling scream uploaded!l

Started as soon as I picked mom up from her day program. She thought she had been locked up or some such. Got home, she starts on this with her hubby, he tells her yes he called the President to have her sprung! So, naturally, this continued for a couple of hours, until a neighbor parked his car on the street outside out dining room window. Then it became she needed to get the license plate number because they were casing the joint. And hubby played into that as well. I sure don't need that kind of help.

While Mom is going through the getting out, sissy calls, she asks sissy how she got out. From there the conversation turned to, I think, moving Mom because Mom asked how much it cost. Just one thing after another, just got her in bed, hope she stays there.
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Susan you are not a worthless parent and stuff him! the more i get of men the more i love my CAT!!!!!!! No offence Captn!
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veronica?????? so you didnt have the needle stuck in your hand and asked to seperate your fingers???? what did they do? aslo why were you having this done? i had a bad bang to right side of brain in an accident 5yrs ago my right leg and arm are not functioning properly? if i do anything with right arm it goes numb or painful? my doc says has to be nerves? be interested to know why you are getting it done and how come you were not tortured? i had the shocks thats ok but the needle OUCH! Glad you didnt suffer!!
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Well I had dad's dentist appt today 2 small cavities and a much larger one that the tooth may need to be pulled. So I have to bring him back in three weeks to get that work done. Tonight is last night with just Hubby, Dad and I as my sister and a friend are driving through the night to get to my house as hubby and I have to attend our godson's wedding out of town then Monday Dad moves in assisted living and I can slowly regain my life and sleep again.
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I started to post a very long rant...but what's the point. It won't change anything. I'll just say this: Never underestimate the power of an ex-spouse to make you feel like a worthless parent and remind you of why you remain single.
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Kazz so to disappoint you but I calmly lay on the table while the shocks were administered and just felt a little fizzle in the muscle. My husband who was in the room said that they hurt him so badly he screamed everytime the shock came. I asked the Dr if he would have used a stronger current on hubby. he said not with a tiny smirk. MEN.
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Kazz, if I started pulling my sister's hair now I wouldn't be able to stop. She would be bald! I hate the thoughts of ever seeing her again, I don't trust myself. Jessie, I know how you feel. We used to have great family get togethers for holidays. The laughter was wonderful. I would be happy for days after these events. Sadly they are no more. I think if we had a party now we would wind up in jail!
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Pity party today. I went grocery shopping. There were people buying things for the 4th. Hamburgers and hotdogs. Beer and coke. Chips, etc. It made me real sad to realize I had no family or friends to share with tomorrow. Just the woman who will sit in front of the TV tomorrow, saying she doesn't feel like doing anything. I remember a time when holidays were fun. This is beyond sad.
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dadshelper! So sad for you hugs this is a very hard time for you BUT i never got to say goodbye to my dad which is sad although im glad he went quickly and didnt suffer! We are still having serious anger issues with his girlfriend as she never told us how ill dad was so we had no idea he just had a massive heart attack then at the funeral we found out his heart was working 40 per cent and she knew this and didnt have the common decency to tell us. Cant describe the anger we feel now as we could have spent more time with him but he didnt suffer and thats the main thing! I just miss him as i would whine to him on the phone every week over mum and he was so supportive! So sad!
Enjoy your time with him i know its hard to watch them suffer but youll treasure it all when they are gone!
Hugs and prayers to you as i will be in this situation one day soon with mum and im dreading it i think just finally seeing her at peace will make me happier although it will be hard to lose her!
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I told my little sister there was no "santa"??????????? she brings that up alot too!! I know it wasnt a nice thing to do but i was pissed as she got extra presents and i didnt!! The one xmas it really got to me was when SANTA? got her a beautiful blue fluffy cuddly toy dog!! i was so jealous then. Mum tells her still today that im jealous of her? youre too right im jealous shes off living the high life and im cleaning up poop 24/7??.
Shes here next week for a week so i will be doing a ritual on friday night before i head off on holidays that mum throws the biggest tantrum in public with my sis and she will see the "madness" that i see everyday!
Another lovely day today i cleaned the whole kitchen wiped down all the counters with antibacterial stuff THEN mum comes along flings her toast on the clean counters then spills cumbs on the nice clean floor? I snapped and asked her why she dosnt get a plate? NO she hurled abuse at me called me a bitch and went off slamming doors again!
thankgod we are seeing her geriatrician tomorrow as im done with this crap shes in a bad mood everyday now i just hope he can give her something? if not maybe he can give me something? Really depressed and sick of her bad moods i have to sit in the kitchen to avoid her and just smoke my head off ( i know not good).
Yep everydays a "whine"!!!
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Yep Hope youre so right "GUILT" is the main reason for all thier anger issues! cant help wont help but will curse me down for giving a shit! Because they dont feel the same caring way that we do!
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Sallie my sister is 46 next week? she still goes on about me pulling her hair when we were younger!! Grow up????? they never will! I tell you shes not too old for a bit of hair-pulling if she dosnt wake up to mums illness!! Ah they were the days remember? "NO YOU LET MY HIAR GO FIRST!!!!" lol
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Sallie and Hope, you aren't the only ones! My sibs bring up stuff from 40 years ago, resentments against not only me but my mom as well. There are plenty of these stories on the dysfunctional thread.
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