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I walked into nursing home where she moved him last night cuz she found out I was getting an emerg.visit order...& the b****, her sister & 80 something mother all beat the crap out of me she even commanded her dog (yes a dog was in hospital) to attack...my brother died this morning.
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Could someone else on AC weigh in on this Issue please? Thanks
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Sylvia, when you added your question to this site initially, you added it onto the end of someone's question. That was posted months ago. Yours was a new situation. I am not sure whether or not you were able to get an emergency order to see your then dying brother. I see you were able to find out he was moved to a nursing home. What do you mean they beat you up? There is much alarm to all of this. I am sorry you were not able to see your brother before he died. Certainly, if someone physically harmed you, you need to contact police.
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I'm not clear on why you wouldn't be able to see your mom, whether your sister has POA or not. And, if your sister isn't mentally capable, maybe you could challenge the POA if she does actually get it.

As for dealing with this, my own personal method is to remember the old saying, "Lose the battle, win the war." With the mission being to ensure the proper care of a family member, come up with a good battle plan and make sure you are clear on the possible outcomes. Whatever happens, you have to be sure you can live with it.
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police came...they took pics of all the places I was punched etc...then they told me to leave & that even the hospice said I have to get off their property..after I left I went to the er..have contusions everywhere, feels like 2 ribs are broken, ER DR. even thought for sure they were broken..her, her sister & her mother...were not arrested..DID I BEAT MYSELF UP..my brother's wife told police it was his wish to not to have to see his sister...that's a joke...he just called me a few days...after I was escorted off the property...my brother's 2 children came with their mother (his ex-wife) she told nursing home..it was his wish not to see them either...they were also denied....this is truly an evil woman....I found out she had him cremated instantly yesterday, he died 8:55...he was cremated instantly...She also told another family member there is NO SERVICE, NO MASS, NO NOTHING..
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also - my mother wanted to go see him yesterday morning & some other family members, his wife said, noone is allowed over there to see him...don't even bother coming there, etc. (I still can't believe the police would believe her about my brother & his wish BS to not see his family) It's def.all her doings!!! There's probably fraud involved knowing her & I already have a Detective working the case...there's a life ins. policy that she can't wait to cash..I don't know name of company but I am making it a priority to try & find out who it's through so they can put a stop on the check....she never told ins. co. he has cancer..there's also other fraudulent schemes that took place, including fundraisers where she kept the money and prizes...big tv is in her sisters living room...& SHE just bought a brand new car & paid cash...thought they were poor...until 10 fundraisers took place & bilked people out of all kinds of $$$.
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she also cashed out his 401 for $30 thou.(he earned way b4 he even met her) that $ was supposed to be for his 2 young children...that $ is gone now...
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civility usedta not be my strong suit but i haveta admit its been working for quite some time where family is concerned. tell sis shes doing a fine job but caregiving is best done by a team and youd like to be on the team. an honest compliment seems to always get a foot in the door with thoughtless people.
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Sylvia, the fact the police took pictures of the assault shows they are collecting evidence. You need to call the chief of police and detectives and talk to them. Also your phone records will show your brother called. Besides you, they would not let his own mother see him.......? That is just so sad. Do you have someone close to you to help you through this..
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My sister won't let me see my mother who lives with her and pays $2500 a month to stay there because I believe she is taking advantage of my Mom (which she is) but she wants me to put it in writing which my lawyer said that is ridiculous. My sister who also never used to lock her doors, locks them now and won't give my Mom a key.....(Mom needs help to her room). Said sister says I can only come get her when someone is home.
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Lyssa, did she put the locks on because mom might wander off? Is she giving mom 24/7 care? Is mom in a wheelchair or walker? What is it that she wants in writing? We need more info.
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MamaLlama09, I agree with blannie. Unfortunately, your Mom didn't support you as she should have, because of her fear of your sister. I also agree with some of the points StandingAlone made. If you have the strength and resources, fight for the best life for your Mom, as long as you don't further damage her in the process. Best of luck to you.
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