Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Well I am so glad that your sister is doing the Wednesday's visits with your mom.
If your mother is now in need of actual visits, rather than phone calls, this is a marked improvement on your sister's behalf. Real good, sure that time you told her she had to step up to the plate had an impact, the boundaries.
I still don't know what plans are for Thanksgiving. Truth be told, I'm kind of not looking forward to seeing my sister orchestrate everything again. I just saw her do this for her first grandson's birthday party two weeks ago. She just absolutely overdoes everything she becomes involved with. But we shall see.
O.K., Sharymarie, take care and don't work too hard. Much Love, Margeaux
I guess some of us have missing in action lately. I've had really weird problems w/my email account, and have had to sign onto this site via the internet. There was so much going on around the country last week also, w/elections.
Sorry to hear about your fibromyalgia flare up. Yes the weather changes! It's been making my sinuses act up also. But I'm trying to manage them.
I haven't resumed my family history investigations. Last couple of mos., seemed to fly by quite quickly, and I was busy quite a few outstanding issues w/our apartment, and the landlady. But I want to resume the family tree, once I resolve whatever is going on with the email.
I am happy to hear that Gary's son is out of the hospital. I will keep all of you in my thoughts. Oh, have you by any chance made the chutney? I have not, but should try it out. I thought that it could be a nice gift for Christmas. Well, that of course is only if it comes out good. O.K., Emjo, take care, Much Love! Margeaux
Emjo – my leopard print is black jeans with the prints even blacker than the background. Very subtle n decent enough to wear to work. Fits me perfectly....
I am pushing myself to get somethings done tonight which have needed to be done. I can't really say it was related to today's therapy session, but I'm feeling more energy too. I hope tomorrow is similar.
The more my mother's health declines and her dementia increases the more I'm finding visiting my mother in the nursing home to be very depressing for a day or two after I visit. I'm glad that my step-dad is able to visit her almost every day with his helper, but he must be in disbelief of how bad off she is to be as chipper as he acts when I visit him or he is on a more powerful "happy pill" than I am on.
That is pretty low BP. Have they adjusted yor BP meds? I think it would account, at least in part, for low energy.
Hope you have a good day
I saw my endocrinologist today, I was shocked to learn that my blood pressure was so low. It's never been 98 over 50ty something. The nurse said that was not dangerously low and wanted to know if I was feeling dizzy. I don't feel dizzy, but I don't have much energy.
katie -hope you are getting some help. I do agree with austin about being more forceful about your needs. That is harder for some of us than others.
margeaus - how are things? Have you made any more progress with your family history?
book - I think you talked about buying some leopard print jeans!!!!! Wow - never seen any. I don't know if I wouod dare. I do have a halter neck leopard print jump suit! I hope you are gettng some reliable help and more time off for you. Any thing new regarding your health?
cmag -hope things are good with you and your wife injuries are healing
I have been MIA - Winter has brought on some fibromyalgoa flare ups, and I tried some meds which are supposed to help - maybe they did - but I they made me too drowsy in the daytime. So I tried something diffferent yesterday, and hopefully that will help. As with arthritis, weather changes cause flare-ups with CFS/FM more snow again!. Another appoiuntment with the specialist in a week and not sure that I can drive, so better book it by phone.I am very thankful she is following up. Hoping to make a trip in December to visit a friend I have't seen in years, combined with a business trip G has to make. It will help to break up the winter.
Clay is home, and has a long recovery ahead. Can't remember if I mentioned that he is on oral drugs still as well as the morphine, so he will have problems again. I feel so badly for him. There doesn't seem to be a solution.
Mother is miffed as I am not giving her much attention. Of course she always sounds surprised when I tell her that I have health issues myself, and need to look after them.
Love, hugs and prayers to all Joan
Not much going on these days. Working more hours, sis comes to mom's house every Wednesday afternoon which helps a lot. Waiting for sis to make appt. with neurologist.
I will probably have to work Thanksgiving so not sure if/when we will have our family get together now. I may have to tell my son not to come up if I can't do the dinner the day before Thanksgiving...oh well it's the nature of the grocery business, at least I am off Christmas.
It seems like things are calm for everyone, I hope Gary's son is continuing to recover. Take care everyone!!
Thank you for the wonderful hugs. Well Austin, you did all you could, and at least you realize this about the fact you did. We can't control, nor do I think one wishes to, with respect to how people feel about us. But yes, this must be difficult, I know this all too well, in my family. Good for you, and I'm thinking about you!
Much Love & Light, Margeaux
However, I have seen some who posted their Own Question, and Other Posters (who do not visit those 2 sites mentioned above) have commented.
So, if you do all 3, you will hopefully get different advice in which you can choose from. Please give it a try.
Welcome to this thread. My condolences for the passing of your mom.
This must be quite difficult for you having lost your mom, then to have to be involved in this kind of scenario w/your brothers. Well do tell us more about your situation, as this is what we do here on the thread. There are countless stories here of family members who have done things as such, draining the elder's bank accounts. Anyway, please come back here, because writing about it does help.
Stay Strong! Much Love & Light, Margeaux
It takes me about at least an hour and sometimes longer, since I'm driving from the beach, east of me further inland to mom's. It just seems as if everyday there is traffic, even on weekends. So when I go there, I have to plan it around even the drive.
Well from your post, it sounds as if your mom really is needing more attention.
Believe me, you're in my thoughts w/respect to the appointment you have.
She really sounds as if she is in need of some type of anxiety medication.
Good for you Sharynmarie, w/the boundaries, and your sister, and very good you're putting them in place at this moment in time. O.K., Keep us posted,
Much Love, & Light! Margeaux
I too was drained last year, from being supportive and going every now and again to my mother's house. Last year her sister was still alive, and raising literal hell over there. I was at my wit's end about the time she passed, and I came upon this site. I am also so grateful that Cmagnum, our fearless leader started the thread! Yes, I agree with you that people here are very supportive, and I also believe in giving back. It's good to be also reminded about how we arrived here, thanks Bookworm. Much Love & Light! Margeaux
Oh last week was quite hectic, work related. I'm having major problems with my hotmail account right now, can't really see emails. I know Mercury is going retrograde, I think tomorrow, I feel it already! Margeaux