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"You gave up your friends?????"

Yes, some years ago as my work started really heat up I had to budget my free time. At that exact time my brother came home very depressed. I took care of him for quite a while. I did tell my friends what was going on and that I would not be going out with them for the foreseeable future. That was many years ago.
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Lisa, I'm SO glad you have an appointment with a therapist.

Be aware that therapy takes time and commitment to change. Let us know how it's going!
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You mentioned you don't feel financially vulnerable. That's odd. Most people worry about their finances. Do you live off disability benefits?
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"I do work. This is what I do: I just got off a conference call with a company in China. It's Monday there. What happened was a colleague in the US told me on Friday the Chinese company pricing was about 10% too high (and wouldn't allow a profit margin on our end). The company in China just told me can't go any lower. So now my only alternative in this situation is to go back my colleague and ask them to try to negotiate the price down directly with the company. This might work, or not. That's what I do for a work. It's very difficult but very possible to do very well."


Sure, yeah right. And I'm the King of Brunei.

Please take care of your friends from the past. Friendship isn't just about meeting new people. It's also about re-kindling old friendships. Not discarding them, when they're no longer useful. Today, do something nice, unexpected, for your vulnerable, sick friend.

Get a job. Become financially independent.
You mention a lot, rich people.

You also mention a lot, what's wrong with several people's personalities. Is there anything wrong with your personality? When you do mention some kind of "fault" about yourself, it's disguised as a compliment for yourself: kind of like, I was too kind, too giving, too mature, I was just too great.

Work hard. Create your own life.
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"When I was younger there was a very rich woman in my community that everyone knew. She saw me one school night out walking to the store. She said "You should be in doing homework!" because she felt entitled. I had just passed my exams with straight A's and had no more homework. So I said "Mind your own business"."

This was very rude of you.
The woman was concerned about you. Her wealth has nothing to do with it. She didn't feel entitled. She was worried about you, and encouraged you to do your homework.

For example, an appropriate reply would be, "Thanks for your concern. Actually I already finished my homework. Yipee!"

The woman would have answered something like, "That's great. But please be careful walking at night alone."

Your reply was rude, like a brat, and created totally unnecessary conflict.
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lisatrevor May 2023
No. That woman went around town and was very vocal to anyone who was doing anything she thought was wrong. No one I know of said anything to her because they were always expecting she might give them something of value. Now if another non-rich person went around doing the same thing they would be told off for sure.

Actually I did hear once someone in my neighborhood say something about the rich woman behind her back but now that I think about it this person was fairly new so they may not have known that she was rich.
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It can be seen as you being in a loop, going on and on about your brother.

But I rather describe it this way:
You enjoy talking badly about other people and their faults. It can be your brother, it can be anyone. If you don't criticize your brother, you'll criticize another person (like suddenly mentioning that rich woman). You criticize so that you can give a compliment to yourself.

People who enjoy talking badly about other people tend to do that their whole lives, and non-stop. It makes them feel better about themselves.

I hope you won't be like that your whole life.
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BurntCaregiver May 2023
Don't feed the troll, V.
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Don't get into it with lisatrevor people. If you are unfamiliar with this person read the past posts.

Do not engage. Don't feed the troll.
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