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For me and my mom...she had an advance directive. She made sure 10 or so years before that she had made it known to me that she would not want anything that would prolong her life if she wasn't capable of taking care of herself. The process was a horrible grueling ordeal. But in the end it was what my mother at 91 wanted. She struggled with swallowing and it was hard to imagine how scary it was for her that each time she would try she felt the urgency of gagging and throwing up. I had the Durable Power of Attorney and followed the DNR. You can not feel guilty for something that is out of your hands. My mom passed on January 9th of this year. I miss her so much she was my best friend. But when she left us she was with Hospice and I truly believe they are angels of mercy. They made sure she didn't feel the pain or suffering. God Bless the caregiver.
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trunner0, I am so sorry for your loss.

In hind sight, it looks like the doctor made a good call. I am sorry that you didn't have sufficient information to understand the doctor's decision. The hospice staff should be able to provide that explanation.

Losing your mother would have been painful under any circumstances. I am sorry that you had the additional stress of the feeding issue.
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I think this is totally whacked. Definitely get another opinion. If your mom wants to eat but he won't allow her to, I think that's rather cruel and sounds more like it's for his convenience that she "hurry up and die." Do not settle for this at all.
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Bonfire, she did die, within 24 hours of the no feeding order. Most likely the doctor knew that her body was shutting down.
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If a doctor denied my mom food, I would want a complete explanation first. I don't ever trust anyone blindly but ask a lot of questions which everyone is entitled to a satisfactory answer.
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Whatever. I disagree with what the person thinks the first one Prsimon. F__ck HIM. The Dr. He's not god. Do what you think is the right thing to do I don't listen to the Dr.s I read and learn on my own unless your that stupid and just go by what anyone thinks. Loook just tack your mom home and get hospic good god.
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Hey better yet! Got a computer? Then READ look it up go from there!.....
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