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I agree with NYDaughter - you needn't explain but if it makes it more comfortable to give some excuses until the cycle is broken with your aunt, work on coming up with some white lies. Even if your not actively job hunting now, you aunt doesn't need to know that. Give it a couple of days then begin with something like - its morning and you and aunt are up "I'm going to see mom at 11:00 - I've got a job interview right after so let's plan our next visit together for Thursday". And just keep at it in a sporadic fashion so your aunt can't plan everyday together for the two of you. And for sure - be careful. As someone already mentioned - I fear your aunt is grooming you to be her own caregiver.
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Your aunt is clingy. Is this your mom's older or younger sister? Does this aunt have children of her own? Perhaps she's priming you to care for her too when she needs it?

You are explaining yourself much too much to your aunt. Learn to say things like:
"I have other plans tomorrow and cannot take you with me."
"I have made other plans."
"If you would like to come with me to visit my mother, I am going tomorrow at 10 am."
"I am not going to the grocery store until Saturday at 8 am."

You are under no obligation to answer your aunt's telephone calls every time she calls you. Let her leave a message. If it's urgent, call her back as soon as possible. If it's not urgent, return the call at your convenience.

Get out of the house. Start walking around your neighborhood. Take a drive just for the heck of it. Go to the movies. Go to the library. The library is a great place to look for a new job because finding a job can be a full time job in itself. Get your aunt used to seeing you living your life.
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Shinigami, that would drive me crazy, too. Sometimes I want to do things by myself. To feel that I always had to tote someone with me would get burdensome after a while.

It is sad to read your mother is going through this so early in life. Diabetes can definitely do a lot of harm to the brain if it isn't controlled well. Did the doctors say it was metabolic dementia? or is it something else? I'm just sorry that they didn't catch it in time.

I do like the way that you see your job loss -- as a benefit right now and not a bad thing. I do hope your finances are holding together so you can enjoy this time with your mother. Jeanne's idea of arranging days for your aunt to go with you sounds very good to me. That will give you some alone time. Even when you love family you don't want to be with them all the time.
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Your aunt is free to expect anything she wants to. That doesn't mean you have to fulfill her expectations.

She expects to go the the SNF with out everyday at 2:00? Fine. But you can go any time you want to, with or without her. Since she seems to do best with a predictable routine, perhaps you could take her with you on Mondays and Thursdays at 2:00, and go alone the other days. Or don't take her with you at all -- although it sounds as if you'd like to maintain some kind of cordial relationship with her.

The problem here is not what your aunt expects. It is what you are doing that you don't want to do. Stop it! Yes, it will cause her to piss and moan. So? You will survive that better than the resentment that is building up.

Are you looking for another job?
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