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Just tell them straight out YOUR safety is at risk. They refuse to medicate and your giving notice. They dont care about you or the safety of the dog. You dont get paid enough to be abused. Even if they say they will do it, that could be days to weeks to get her medicated. What if they decide to not give her meds that day bc they feel bad about it or change their mind. I wouldnt take to being slapped. NO! You say shes angry for long periods. Dont feel bad about not wanting to be abused. You should never feel that way.
Tell them there is something you need to tell them. Tell them you are quitting and giving 2 weeks notice. You have been offered a better job. You will work with them to train a new person. Tell them your safety has been at risk and it is now dangerous for you and whoever they hire. Say it is too late but thank you. I'm leaving on such and such a date. You love them but it's time to move on. Stop talking then. Dont blather.
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Give notice as you would any other job. Then accept the new job.
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You are an excellent caregiver. This one journey is coming to an end, give your two week notice, and move on to the next journey. You do what is right for you and your own family. God bless and good luck with your new job:)
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Im sorry, in your exact situation, if anyone, demented or not, slapped me across the face, first i wld have called 911 because the person is certainly out of control and needs to be medicated, even if the family is out of touch with her reality. Why have you put up with violence on a continuing basis??? I would accept the new job and go immediately, forget giving 2 wks notice. Let the family deal with her, and yes i know this may sound harsh, but its reality!! Enjoy your new assignment and more time with your family with no guilt!!
i also would report the abuse of the dog to the proper authorities as well....no animal deserves that either...
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NeedHelpWithMom Feb 2020
Exactly, abuse is abuse. When a person is caught off guard they don’t always think clearly or rational.

I know because I was physically abused by a large older teenager with severe non verbal autism. Personally, I think he had more than autism. I didn’t call 911 after the attack and it was worse than a slap across the face. I was left black and blue.

This young man was my neighbor’s son. I sat with him since he was a toddler. so she could get to her dr appointments, hair appointments, shopping and so forth. After he severely attacked me I had to stop sitting with him.

I agree, a notice does not come before being safe. I have never quit a job without a notice but there are exceptions to every rule. In this case, she is justified in walking out.
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I don't think you need to supply reasons. Any reason you give them- her moods, the violence, even the increased wages and less hours- could prompt them to try to convince you to stay. It sounds like you are very attached to this client and leaving is already going to be hard for you without additional conversations justifying your decision. Just say "It's time for me to go." or "It's for personal reasons."

After you've left, you could write them a letter detailing the issues you had so the new caregiver could be prepared for them. You sound very caring. Best of luck to you.
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NeedHelpWithMom Feb 2020
Wonderful! Be happy. Live in peace. You deserve it.
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Gr8fuel, thank you for letting us know how your meeting went. Hopefully this gets them all together to get your little lady the medication she needs to be more relaxed.

Good luck with your new client.
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Woah! - "They thanked me, said I was like family will be missed, and asked if I could stay until they found a replacement"

Gr8fuel, I hope you didn't fall for that? No, you can't commit to staying until they find a replacement. You could - if you choose and if it doesn't cost you your better, high-paid job - extend your notice period by another two weeks; but unless your contract says otherwise you should not feel that you have to.

If they know you won't leave until they've got somebody as good or better (sounding likely?) they won't even look, not in earnest. You'll be stuck, and it will be harder to leave, and you'll start believing that you're indispensable and that to "leave them in the lurch" would be an act of wicked cruelty to helpless elders and their devoted children. Either that, or the relationship will turn sour and spoil the good years you've had together.

NOBODY is indispensable. The family will cope. Somebody else needs you now. So be nice, but be firm and give them a formal end date.
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JoAnn29 Feb 2020
I have looked for a response from OP saying how meeting went and can't find it.
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Joann, gr8fuel responded to me on my Jan 31, 2020 post. 2nd reply
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JoAnn29 Feb 2020
Thank u, found it. I agree, don't stay on till they find someone else. Could be ages. But, I got that they asked but she didn't agree. She goes on to say that she can't wait to start the new job. I doubt if new employer can wait indefinitely either. Hope she comes back to tell us how the knew job is doing. I love updates.
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