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It takes a while to adjust. My mom, at 79 with mild/moderate dementia still doesn't like her AL and makes comments from time to time. I ignore them or make a vague response. Your mom's behavior might not improve, unfortunately. Take a few days off from talking to her. Either go away or pretend you're going away and don't see or talk to her for a few days. Maybe that will help her adjust better. It's not easy but it's necessary.
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Don’t hover. She’ll adjust better if you taper off. As for guilt, why? You made the best choice possible for her care.

Start a new hobby. You need something on your mind besides “poor mom, poor me, daddy is dead and I’m a mean daughter.” None of that is true. When you do decide to start spending time with mom in her new digs, take the aides some cookies and be especially personable and nice. Friends there will help.
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It is SO hard to make that decision. My mom was 93 and much safer in an ALF. She hated it and while she never really adjusted she did start to love her room, She simply forgot everything that went before. I suppose in that case, the dementia is your friend. She forgot my home within a couple of days of the move. Within a few weeks she perceived the ALF as home. She did not like it but was not yearning for what she had before. She could not remember anything before.

Our ALF was not great. They were bought by a larger company right before she was placed. So, I had to be the helicopter for awhile to make sure the transition went smoothly. I will say it never really got easy for me.

Give it time and do what you think you need to do to get through this transition for your mom and for you.
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A few weeks is not enough time to adjust and most make the mistake of not staying away for a few weeks to let the person acclimate to their new home.

Making everything more difficult, time to back off for your own wellbeing.

Time to rethink everything as she is safe and in a nice place, if anything serious happens they will call you.

Being a helicopter child is not the right thing to do, does not help either of you.

Let her make friends and settle in.
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