Who or where do you file a complaint about a bad caregiver. I went to court to try and get rid of her but couldn't. My sibling is trying to push me out of the family so she can take over and she is teaming up with the caregiver to lie about me on court papers so she can get paid under the table and the amount she wanted. Due to no representation I lost my case of adult guardianship against my sibling but the caregiver lied to the social worker, had meetings without telling me, gossips to family members about me, won't acknowledge I am family and is involved with the financial matters. My sibling just loves her and trusts her and she hates me so I have been kicked out of the family because of her mouth. I want to keep her from destroying another family so how do I warn people? I hired her through a company and then she came to work for us full time and that is when she changed her attitude. I told the company and she is not going to be able to go back there but what about other companies or general population. My sibling will give her a recommendation but she is an evil narcissistic person.
"My sibling is trying to push me out of the family so she can take over and she is teaming up with the caregiver to lie about me on court papers so she can get paid under the table and the amount she wanted. Due to no representation I lost my case of adult guardianship against my sibling but the caregiver lied to the social worker, had meetings without telling me, gossips to family members about me, won't acknowledge I am family and is involved with the financial matters. My sibling just loves her and trusts her and she hates me so I have been kicked out of the family because of her mouth. I want to keep her from destroying another family so how do I warn people?"
This is but one more case, IMHO, of "siblings at war" tearing a helpless elder to pieces when that elder is most vulnerable. It's clear that:
1. Your sibling is caring for your parent.
2. Your sibling is in charge of hiring caregivers for your parent.
3. You took your caregiver sibling to court and fought to be guardian in her stead.
4. You lost.
I think under these circumstances my advice to you would be:
1. Apologize to all involved including sister, caregiver and your parent
2. Beg to be allowed to visit your loved parent even if accompanied by sister or caregiver
3. Promise to never cause any trouble whatsoever again.
4. Be VERY CAREFUL of what you say about this hired caregiver lest you be sued for defamation of character, libel or slander. Have a very good umbrella policy for insurance so that if you ARE SUED by this person you will be able to have an attorney for your defense through your insurance.
As you can imagine, when we get questions such as your own we are only getting one side and we cannot be judge and jury on any case we do not know the facts of. I advise you to take care.
Do consider seeking counseling for yourself.
Revenge isn't always sweet.
It’s pretty telling when this response occurs.
Can you clarify... who was she hired to provide care for? Who has the legal guardian? If you hired her, why do you have so little control about her sticking around?
By being involved with the financial matters do u mean your the POA? If so, you hold the purse strings unless Mom and Dad are competent. So you determine what this aide gets paid. You can have accounts changed so no one else has access, if parents are incompetent. If parents are incompetent, you could fire the aide.
Surprised this aide, from an agency, was able to go private. She accentually stole a client from the agency. So did ur parents. Usually contracts don't allow that and there is a penalty for it.
Why did you want to obtain guardianship?
What is your relationship with your mother and sister?
Did the caregiver’s work ethics change after working in private care vs agency care?
What lies are you accusing the caregiver of?
Why didn’t you have representation in court?
Why do you feel this caregiver doesn’t deserve to work with another family after your mom dies?
Are you being left out of a family will?
Just what exactly is your motive for wanting to destroy a person’s opportunity to work in their chosen field?
Please answer these questions and then I will give a response.
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