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I think you gave him a great answer. You reminded him he will still have choices.
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Devidas, thank you :~)
This getting old is no fun, even without the dementia!
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I actually like Maggie's answer, it was one I often gave myself...there are times a little sarcastic humor actually works wonders. I am only now, at age 57, and 5 years after losing my mom and dad, getting over my own fear of aging. When I pin it down, what I fear is my life becoming intolerable, even though NOW it is sometimes so busy it seems intolerable!!

But, I think of people aging well and aging badly - of people fighting and not fighting against preventable things and inevitable things - and I think even more of what an answer to my prayers one restless night happened to be. It was not answer, it was no promise that a future problem would be averted (oddly enough it was) but just the scripture "My grace is enough for you!" popping into my head. I still had a hard time getting to sleep, but somehow it was all different and I was grateful. I am trying to make it into a song to sing, to remind myself that what I have can always be enough.

We can shape part of our experience and shape our attitude towards the rest. We do our best, and then rest/let God do the rest, we can find whatever joy and pleasure is there, and endure the times without any as best we can, or if you're Catholic you are supposed to "offer them up" (though as a convert, I honestly haven't quite got the sense or knack of that yet :-).

On the plus side, I had begun to hate the fall season so badly because it was a reminder of endings, losses and change for the worse, but this year my attitude has shifted and you know, cooler days and pretty leaves might just be welcome again, though summer will always be my favorite.
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vstefans, I view autumn and winter as the planets respite time.
Everything slows down a pace in autumn, and gives us a chance
to do that too. Winter is a time for us all to hibernate a little and
enjoy closer to home activity.
By spring time we're ready to start branching out again, reaching
into the wider world, then summer with it's warmth and chances to
get out and about if we can.
Everything in life is for a season, we just need to be aware that our
own personal seasons may be longer or shorter, but each will come
to an end and though oft repeated each will be a little different
I'm currently unable to sleep (despite being desperately tired)
until dawn starts lighting the sky (about 4.00/4.30 in SE England)
not good as I still have commitments in a day time life ~ but it is
only for a season :~)
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Lucy, very poetic and thoughtful answer.
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:~) Thanks GA everytime I see my Morning Glory flowers I think of you & this forum
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Lucy, I just love morning glories. I think they're my favorite flower. Although I don't have any yet, I'm eyeing some of the Japanese varieties.
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If he's chosen to spend the rest of his years a la Groundhog Day stuck in a time warp, there isn't much you can do except present him with practical choices. And you have.
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