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You see this happen all the time in nh etc. elderly do need relationships but some are there for the money. Elderly man lonely easy target. Protect your father by all costs if she is really a loving companion she will respect you and show dad love and compassion. I would not trust her and I would make sure dad has all his paperwork with you provided with an elderly law attorneys
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They have been together for 13 years. Have you always been this suspicious of her motives and this dismissive of their relationship?
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Be sure the credit cards are paid off in full and cancelled. Put a security freeze on his credit profile.
If he gave her $60k and has credit card debt, that would be very poor judgment on his part.
Perhaps they are separating legally, or divorcing.
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Hi everyone, I’m sorry I haven’t responded sooner. I’d hoped there would be some sort of resolution that I could report back to you, but it doesn’t seem it will be so simple. I ended up telling Dad the truth about how I felt about the situation. Good or bad, I don’t know. It wasn’t planned, it just seemed to erupt. I feel horribly about hurting him but also to be honest, I told him the truth about the situation and the concerns I have so I guess, I feel unburdened. But, I honestly don’t know if it was the right thing to do. Dad called me and my sisters over the course of years, begging us to come and get him, that “she’s killing me”. After refusing to leave multiple times, he is finally convinced to leave and then tells me none of it was true, that he didn’t really want us to come and get him. He’s even gone so far as to be angry at my sisters for going to get him and bringing him her. But, then again, he claims not to want to go back. He wants me to welcome this lady into our home, as if none of this ever happened. She told me that “husbands usually leave all their money to their wives”, as if his marriage to my mother and the existence of his four daughters, very loving and supportive daughters, did not occur. She claims we don’t respect her. Truthfully, I don’t, not anymore. I welcomed her into our family, I cared for her and have always been willing to move over and make room for her, but it doesn’t seem she wants us to make room but that she wants the whole bench to herself. Perhaps, she has no respect for my father’s daughters or for the plans he made with my mother. I think there were problems when Dad lived with her. I say this because he is a different man now. Much stronger emotionally, much much less anxious. He’s becoming the man I remember again. Dad says he’s going to go back to her once he’s strong enough. I don’t know if he’ll ever be “strong enough” but if he decides he is, and he goes back, what will happen to him? I suspect he’ll revert to that lost person he was when he first arrived here, completely anxiety-ridden,fairly quickly. I don’t know what to do. I don’t think there is anything I can do. He’s not been declared incompetent so what I can do is limited. Thanks for letting me vent.
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Glad you got it off your chest, good or bad.. I sent, earlier on, a list of states that recignize Common Law. Was the State your Dad was living in recognize CL. If not, they are not married, just coexisted.

Does Dad have a will? If not may be a good time to have one drawn up if he has any assets. Some states recognize, any money or property obtained before a marriage the spouse can't claim. Only assets procured during the marriage. She should be left something but maybe not everything. That's up to Dad.

I guess the visit was not so great.
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PracticePeace Dec 2018
We’re actually in Canada. Dad does have a will but it’s pretty bare bones. I guess the truth is that I just have to let it go for now. Dad’s not legally incompetent so I’ve got no right to interfere. The visit was tense but no unkind words were exchanged, thank goodness.
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