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She sounds very young.....
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Yep, the first statement, "My boyfriend is unable to give me the love and attention that I need..." pretty much answers the question.
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Girl, he's just not that into you.

When a guy wants to be with you, he'll move mountains to be with you. He will AT THE VERY LEAST put you first and not let anything stand in his way. Why over-analyze everything and make excuses for him? He's clearly not The One, and we can all see that in your original post. 

Sorry to be the hard truther here, but you deserve so much better than this, and we all want you to have it.
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Needing, your boyfriend cannot give you what you want or need. Love is not enough if one of the person's involvement and commitment does not satisfy the other individual. You either accept the situation as it is or find someone who can meet your expectations of what you want in a relationship.
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A quote from my ex to one of my adult kids, on the subject of my current husband...

"Your mom just wants someone who thinks she's terrific, all the time".

Why yes, I do, thank you.

Need, you deserve to love someone who loves you back and who admires and appreciates you. You need to move on from the unreciprocated affair.

( Not that into sex?. My daughter had a boyfriend like that. He's gay. )
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I think there is a lot of wisdom on this forum coming from folks who have been around the block, and then back again. This situation sounds like a living hell, but OP doesn't see it and just wants a quick fix. Those of us who have been in the trenches understand too well that caregiving can run havoc on our relationships and damage our own health. An important reminder that people have given me here is that my needs are important and valid but yet again it's SO hard to have your needs met when MIL lives in the same household, taking up so much physical and emotional space. You become tethered to someone who is high maintenance plus - the dynamics of your relationship with spouse changes dramatically and every decision in your household, down to what you eat, has to factor this other person in. If hindsight is 20/20 vision, maybe she needs to find out herself. Though if she reads this I hope that she listens to the collective wisdom on this forum. OP sounds young and I'm sure that she could relate to the idea of giving up her freedom or choices on a daily basis. And if you are not going to be the priority in this relationship, are you better off with him or without him?
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Dorianne, you hit the nail on the head. Wish I thought to say that. I agree, she wanted someone to tell her how to maneuver him into what she wanted. She can't change him or the situation he is in. Maybe he likes caring for his LOs. Sounds like he has time for his friends. Been there and that's why I divorced #1. #2 is very different and I come first.
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I'm not sure this poor lady wants to maneuver him or anything like that. I think she just wants to hear something that gives her hope, that gives her a reason to hang on, because she does genuinely love him.

Unfortunately, I've known sooooo many bright, wonderful, caring women who pour all this compassion, thought, and effort into relationships with the wrong men, and I think this is clearly one of those situations. Women are still conditioned from a very young age to "save" men and do all the heavy lifting in relationships, without ever asking ourselves if we even like the guy anymore. 

Sadly, some guys would rather gnaw off their own arm than risk facing a woman's anger or tears, which is why they do things (like cheating, like acting distant, like neglecting their partners) that push the women into being the relationship enders.  I think this is one of those situations. 
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Speaking of relationship ending. There is rarely an amicable breakup and a lot of people just hate the ugliness so much they say what the other person wants to hear. It’s kinder to everyone to face reality.

My first husband was unspeakable, a bonafide sociopath. I was a fetus when I got married. Too young. He was going to kill me if I left. Take my baby from me. It was bad. I DID manage to get away with my baby but what a learning experience.

I was single 17 years after that experience. Second husband really is TOO indulgent, but he loves me because he feels it and shows it. I FEEL loved.
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I read somewhere

(whilst on my " why am I such a screw up" journey)

that...
a SMART man learns from his mistakes,
but a WISE man learns from the mistakes of others.

Boy was this an eye opener! Unfortunately, I learned this AFTER I'd already made my life a sh* t show. 😨
But young people believe they and their situation is different. They think "if everyone would just listen to me, and do it this way"....

I do get it though, I didn't listen either at that age. All I wanted where friends who would co-sign my BS...lol....and if anyone didn't, we weren't friends. I too would "leave the conversation."

I do have to say, some of you guys have really been through it! I just want to say thank you all for being so honest and forthcoming with some really personal and painful stuff. I , for one, value it. 💚
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I actually see signs where he is giving her the run around "I'd love to live with you but...." The thing that clinched it is that he has time for his friends so he is not physically caring for someone 24/7. Seems to have a social life, but not for her. All she needed to do was back off and see how he reacted.
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