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People who lie about you to other people. 😡
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BurntCaregiver Aug 2023
@ventingisback

I didn't know you knew my mother LOL. I honestly don't think she's said a truthful thing about me since I was a baby in the crib.
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People who don't listen.
People who try to force their opinions onto you.
People who are mean, rude and lack understanding and compassion.
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NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2023
I second your comment on people who try to force their opinion on others.

Oh, and I especially hate it when they think that they are helping instead of realizing that they are intruding on your personal life.

First of all, it usually doesn’t work!

Secondly, live and let live.
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Chronic complainers! Don’t you just want to tell them to shut up?

I am not referring to serious people who have serious issues that need a shoulder to lean on. I’m talking about people who complain about stupid crap. I just want to scream at them and say, ‘If this is your biggest problem, you have it made in the shade!’

Actually, sometimes I have told certain people that enough was enough, that I didn’t want to hear about it anymore.
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BurntCaregiver Aug 2023
@Need

I do tell them to shut up. Nobody wants to hear someone's negative complaining crap over and over.
Needing a shoulder to lean on is one thing, but that gets mighty old quick when the person doing the leaning refuses to help themsleves in any way.

One of my favorite actors Keanu Reeves dropped a real pearl of wisdom when he was a guest on the 'Tonight Show' about complaining.

He said:

"Eighty percent of people don't want to hear about your problems. The other twenty percent are happy you have them".
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Entitled people. I am dumbfounded by the number of people who think societal norms or even common courtesies shouldn’t be expected from them. But expect them from others. Assumptions that their situation is always worse so they deserve special treatment or exceptions to rules.

Cut the line because you’re in a hurry? What makes you think everyone else isn’t in a hurry as well, or that your time is more valuable than theirs?

I warned you the floodgates had opened.
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patpaul Aug 2023
Entitled people I agree! The ones who always have some justification why following the rules, whatever rules, rules of all types, doesn't apply to them.
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Narcissistic siblings when you are a caregiver.
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These days, the only people who get on my nerves are the sitters who come in a few hours each week to give me a break. Each one of them has her own thing that irritates me.

I'm referring here to people who are not my family.

I think the biggest problem is that my home is no longer feels like my private sanctuary. It's one thing to have people - strangers, really - in for a dinner party or whatnot, but quite another to have them in my home when I'm not here.

But. The biggest thing that grinds my gears is the fact that I - at 64 years old and always very independent - cannot go anywhere unless one of them is here. I hate that. Everything about that drives me to distraction.

Being at the mercy of someone else is the biggest irritation of my life.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
I hear you! Also, we not only had irritating caregivers: but caregivers who were thieves, or rude, or bullies…We’ve had bad luck.
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People who pretend to be kind people when they’re not.
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Justwow123 Aug 2023
My sibling
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People who try to co-own your life.
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BurntCaregiver Aug 2023
Amen to that, venting.
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People who are in a position to warn you about something important, but can’t be bothered to warn you.
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People who intentionally sabotage you.
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People who are impolite. If I notice anything like that, I won’t become friends with them.
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selfish greedy People or people who Look for drama
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Twits
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Critical, bossy people who always insist they are right
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BartleyLove Aug 2023
Yes! This right here. Absolutely!
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I have zero respect for hypocrites, and people who are incapable of assuming responsibility for their choices, words and actions, and those who cannot apologize. Real apologies, without an immediate return to the offending behaviour.

I cringe when people can’t mind their own business, particularly when the worst train wrecks expect to impose their own awful advice.

I loathe people who tell me they’ve never been incorrect, and proclaim themselves to be geniuses in fields for which they have neither education, training nor experience. The moment I hear that I mentally halve their IQ.

I become terribly frustrated with people who cannot or refuse to learn, to change, to grow. “But we’ve always done it that way!” Or “Eeeew, you’ve changed!” Yes, I would hope so as I am older, thus more experienced, and have acquired new information. It sickens me the way we celebrate ignorance. That we trot out tradition as an excuse to be cruel. Empathy, kindness and wisdom seem in short supply.

If I see you (metaphorically or literally) hit someone when they’re down, I will think you’re weak.

I have a house full of company and am prepping for a big party. Otherwise I’d write volumes. I may be back. The floodgates have opened.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
Have a fun party!!

“am prepping for a big party. Otherwise I’d write volumes. I may be back. The floodgates have opened.”

Poodle, Need and I are currently writing Volume 6 OF Volume 6.
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Venting,

Have you ever wanted to secretly video or record someone? LOL 😆, just so they can see what they look and sound like.

My friend did exactly that before she divorced her idiotic husband! He kept denying things that he said and did.

So, one day she said to him, I have everything on video! Would you like to see it? He didn’t know what to say to her when he saw it.

A picture is worth a thousand words. There was no way for him to deny what he was doing!

He was such a fool. Not to mention hypocrite. He was sweet as pie in front of others. Behind closed doors, he was a monster!
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ventingisback Aug 2023
Very good she left him!
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I could write a book on this subject.
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NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2023
😆 LOL, Couldn’t we all write volumes on this subject?

You write volume 1, I will do volume 2 and then we can collaborate on volume 3! 😊
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When people can't admit they were wrong.
I knew someone who would NEVER admit they were wrong.
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NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2023
I do too. I stopped getting upset over a**holes though. It’s a waste of time and energy.
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People who don’t have your best interests at heart.
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Justwow123 Aug 2023
My sibling
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Ungrateful, demanding people who think they are the only people in the world and that everyone else is here for the express purpose of taking care of their needs. And that no one else has needs or deserve to have a life and should give up everything to take care of them.

These types of people don't do well in any setting - be it private at home with one on one care where they burn out their caregivers with their demands - or in group care settings where they whine and pout and demand because they cannot fathom why everyone isn't dropping everything to see to their needs immediately and "what do you mean there are other people who need your help?"

Additionally - they will also attempt to engage other people to "make" caregivers do "better" when they feel they aren't getting the care they "deserve" - regardless of where they are getting the care from. They like their flying monkeys. And of course they also "deserve" better care than other people. Make no mistake.
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Very few humans are admirable.
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AlvaDeer Aug 2023
What you just said is key here,
Venting.

I am afraid the old adage that talks about grief being the result of reality our expectations minus reality is true.

Human beings simply aren't very nice animals. We do have big brains, and we CAN be empathetic, and that's about ALL there is good to say of us, but we are like any other animal, here for territory and breed rights before we die, and we will stop at nothing to get what we want.

Once it is accepted that we simply are not very sweet creatures, not even smart enough not to destroy our own environments (most simple viruses know better than THAT), it is easier to accept the daily travails.
For me when it goes poorly I basically shrug it off with "What did you expect, Al?" and when it goes well I am VERY happy.
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People who throw other people under the bus.

People who only speak to you if they need something from you, but ignore you otherwise.
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BurntCaregiver Aug 2023
@venting

Me too. I have no use for a brown-nosing snitch that will throw a person under the bus because they think it will score them some points somewhere.

I don't have that problem with people only speaking to me when they need something. They just get told to go pound sand and I'm done.
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Scheming, dishonest, thieving people. And back-stabbers.
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poodledoodle Aug 2023
I’ve met a few.
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“Friends” who consistently take forever to reply. In fact, they’re not friends.
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People who hide their true nature. Then one day, they let it show. You’re shocked because they’re so different from what they showed you before.
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@Venting. a great discussion. As other people are at the center of other people's problems.

I'm sure many have heard the workplace saying, yeah, the job would be great if there were no customers... :)
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NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2023
Eh, I have to respectfully disagree with you on the ‘no customers’ idea. Without customers you wouldn’t have a job!
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Pushy people, who try to take over on their first day in a new job (new coworker, can you tell?)
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NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2023
Pushy coworkers are miserable to be around.

I wonder what your coworker would do if you allowed them to take over.

They may screw up horribly and it would show them that it serves everyone better when they work as part of the team.

If they fail as ‘the leader’ they may learn to respect you and ask for your input.
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This one applies to me, but should everyone should take note of this one.

In judgmental situations: People that believe one side of someone's account of things, and judging the another person, without ever listening to the other sides version of accounts.

For an example:

Neighbor A talking to Neighbor B, about Neighbor C: Do you know neighbor C did such and such? Neighbor B's response should be "I can't really judge until I know Neighbor C's side of the story.

In most case it doesn't go like this.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
I’ll try to have no neighbors.
:)
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Most call center staff. - the so called customer services, that must be worth at 20% of people that get on people's nerves.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
You’re right! We’re up to 20.98% now.
:)
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Have we reached 98% (probably higher) of the people yet? :) btw, I start off on the basis of treating every person with equal kindness & compassion, until they steer away from these values.

Following on from @Ventings people that ignore you. People you know and you see in public: they've seen you, but either turn there head away or look down, or wait for you to approach them.
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ventingisback Aug 2023
“Have we reached 98% (probably higher) of the people yet? :)”

Noooo :).
I still have a big list. We’re at 0.98%.
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