Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Yeah, my brother said that he was a nice man. I think he was glad to have him visit and pray with him.
I was kind of surprised when he told me he prayed with the deacon because my brother hasn’t been to church in years. He doesn’t talk about God much. Maybe he does pray though.
I hope the prayers brought him some peace and comfort. He knows that I pray for him.
Thanks, Golden. Keep praying if you don’t mind. I’m praying too. Waiting for results is a bit unnerving.
Hahaha, I still love peanut butter and I like almond butter too. I put a spoonful in my oatmeal with a spoonful of maple syrup and a little almond milk. That’s a complete meal!
I was the only kid in my family who ate oatmeal. I wanted it because my daddy ate it. I wanted everything that my dad had. Yep, I was definitely a daddy’s girl.
My mom never ate breakfast when we were little. I guess she didn’t have time for it.
I also like peanut butter on an apple or a banana. There’s nothing wrong with a peanut and jelly sandwich either! Or peanut butter, banana and honey on whole wheat bread!
I am happy to hear that you had a herbal tea and something to eat. That's great, Need. It's important to look after yourself. Actually a peanut butter and jelly sandwich is not a bad idea!
Right now it is a waiting game till they know more and plot the course ahead. That's never easy.
Prayers for you and your bro and the family. May God give you healing and peace! ((((hugs))))
I gave him the room number so he can call and they can talk. His cell phone is dead. My brother doesn’t have his phone charger with him. I offered to get it from his apartment. He said that he would use the hospital phone for now.
My brother and I are able to receive information from the staff.
Anyway, my older brother called the nurses station and spoke with the nurse and the doctor had added to his notes. A large tumor was removed in yesterday’s procedure. She also said when she went to his room this morning he told her that his pain wasn’t as sharp.
I thanked my brother for calling and telling me this news. I will check in on him this afternoon.
I know my brother wishes he could leave the hospital but he wants to know what he is dealing with and is being sensible.
I am the third child born. My oldest brother is dead though.
Thank you. LLama. I never turn down the offer of prayers. It’s comforting to me.
Golden,
I have always struggled with eating when I’m stressed. It’s something that goes way back. I was like this even as a child.
My stomach would get upset if I tried to eat. Besides that, my appetite would completely leave.
My mom was not a finish everything on your plate kind of mom. Oh boy, the nuns at my school were strict about eating!
I brought my peanut and jelly butter sandwich to school daily because it was my favorite. When mom was out of bread and I didn’t eat the nasty school lunch I was punished.
We couldn’t play at recess if we talked during lunch or didn’t eat everything. We sat on the cafeteria bench until recess was over.
Actually, my mom said that I was never a kid with a big appetite. She said I was always more interested in playing. Hahaha, she would have to get me away from whatever activity I was doing to get me to eat.
I love food and I enjoy cooking a lot but I don’t eat a tremendous amount of food.
I agree your bro is where he needs to be. It sounds like he has some serious health issues. It's very good of you to step in and be there as a support for him.
I'm glad they got him his BP meds. It's important for him to have them.
I guess the picture will be clearer when they have more test results.
I am sorry your older brother has serious health issues too. Having them both ill must weigh on your mind.
I gather your younger bro's kids are not in a position to be of much support to him. That's too bad.
It's understandable that your hub can't go there as he is overwhelmed with work.
One step, one day at a time is enough for us to cope with. Please let us know that you are eating/drinking something other than coffee. Maybe some soup? R is like you - when he is stressed he has a hard time eating.
Hang in there. We are here for you.💛 (((((((hugs))))) and prayers
He had one procedure done earlier today. The results weren’t clear to me because I haven’t spoken to his doctors. I don’t know if my brother even uses MyChart. I’m not his POA. He gave authorization for me to receive medical information at the hospital.
He’s still very uncomfortable, in spite of being on pain meds.
The nurse said the results in the doctor’s (urologist) notes indicated he removed blood clots and possibly a tumor.
The procedure that was scheduled later couldn’t be done. That was to check on gallstones. The nurse said something about difficulty during the test can happen due to a person’s anatomy. The doctor will get back with him tomorrow.
When he went to the ER he realized that he hadn’t taken his BP meds. They ordered his BP and his heart meds.
He has a catheter in and still has blood in his urine.
So, it looks like he will be there for awhile longer.
My older brother is not doing well so it’s just me visiting. He is the one who has been married four times but they all get along very well. He has serious heart issues, prostate issues and a bunch of other things.
My younger brother has a complicated relationship with his children. One child lives in another state. He was married twice. His first wife had bipolar disorder and didn’t take her meds. They had a very messy relationship and divorce. She died with cancer.
She wasn’t a stable person, so it was impossible for her to be a stable mom. He didn’t really have the opportunity to form a strong relationship with his children. It’s a very sad situation.
His second wife moved back to NC. He’s been divorced for years.
I am going to try to take things one day at the time instead of getting to far ahead of myself. I’m sure that I will be less stressed when we have more information.
My husband isn’t going to the hospital with me because he is swamped with projects at work.
My brother is where he needs to be at the moment, so I am comforted by that.
Thanks to everyone for your kindness and support.
I didn’t get coffee from the coffee shop. I ordered an herbal tea and a veggie wrap. I ate half and the other half is in my fridge.
Take care of you.
\Way - not much change in the ones I mentioned before. Fort Chip has been evacuated and the fire there is still out of control. We had a lot of rain and I think a little fell in Chip but not enough to make a much of a difference. It will depend on the wind and the rain whether the fire grows towards the housing or away from it.
We now are at moderate risk of a fire which is a huge improvement on extreme. More rain next week hopefully.
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Get the hospital social worker to talk to your brother.
You can't possibly be solely responsible for your bro's care after hospital. There are facilities and Medicaid if needed. Is your dh a support for this?
Being as objective as possible is good. You can do this!
Please not too much coffee - the caffeine only raises anxiety. But be sure to keep well hydrated and have some food even if you cannot eat very much. Maybe something liquid and nourishing.
Deep breaths, need. I agree with Barb that contacting your therapist is a good idea, As Send says, we are with you
Sending love and prayers. Keep us updated!
Godspeed and traveling mercies.
Prayers for your brother.
Maybe see the hospital social worker or discharge nurse while you are there.
Not knowing is the stress that can take you down.
With a dysfunctional family, maybe starting with "We cannot possibly care for him at home" will help the hospital to find care for him, a direction to go in.
Go easy on the coffee, check out the cafeteria today.
Some deep breaths, take the forum with you. We are listening....
Growing up in a dysfunctional household can really screw up our emotional well being in times of distress, can’t it?
This is how I get when I am upset, drinking coffee, not eating when I am stressed. Just sinking a bit into depression and anxiety because memories come back to haunt me.
He is 65 and dealing with numerous medical issues. Even though we were close growing up he doesn’t share his feelings easily.
He is scheduled for surgery today. Other procedures and surgeries will be following.
My mind is going in different directions and I am consulting with my older brother about what needs to be addressed.
My older brother is not able to be with me at the hospital because of his own health issues.
I feel awkward about speaking with my brother about future care, yet I feel that it’s important. I love him but I do not want to be solely responsible for his care after he is released from the hospital.
I will do what I can to help arrange care for him. I have a feeling it will be a bit awkward, somewhat complicated and stressful. He is struggling financially.
I fear becoming overly involved because of his needs. I am hoping to look at this situation as objectively as possible.
His situation is very serious and I don’t know if he has any final arrangements made. I don’t think that he does. He hasn’t ever said anything to me about the topic.
Thanks for listening to me vent. My stomach is in knots and I am doing my best to remain calm. I appreciate everyone’s support, kindness and prayers.
I will try to update later. I’m struggling with anxiety right now.
((((Hugs)))).