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There was a fire in my parent's home due to their caregiver; my younger sister fell asleep due to alcohol and under the influence of marjuana and left my father unattended with cigs and lighter. My mother's oxygen line caught on fire. She was able to get my mother out but left my father in the house. Since Sept 1st my father has resided with me. He received burns to his legs and feet. I took him to the hospital and had him seen. Had nurses come to my home. My sister quoted he could not return back to his home for he smokes. Now the house sits empty and she is already starting to liquidate their stuff. She does not tell the other POA anything. Tells me its not my business. The police have informed me to keep my father with me. I had to quit my job to look after him. But to get things legal I dont know were to start. Can you give me some advice? My younger sister has my mother at her place and I don't get to see her. Only talked a couple of times on cell phone where my sister talks for my mother. I'm in the works of getting my father a doctor for my sister messed that up. Needed to get my dad assessed so she could remove him from his home. One time deal. My father left agitated and upset. His family doctor of 40 years will not take him back. I've had to resort to online doctor which worked out to get antibiotics. Any advice where I go from here?

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I know that you are extremely concerned about your parents and you have every reason to be so concerned. However, one of the problems that occurs when we are so concerned about our loved ones, we forget about ourselves.

You state that you had to quit your job to take care of your father.
One thing that I think you need to be aware of: if you have NO income, then you most likley will NOT be able to get health insurance from the Affordable Care Act Marketplace because it is a TAX CREDIT applied to your income. If you do not have a job, you will need to purchase PRIVATE/INDIVIDUAL health insurance which can cost $1,000/month or more. Please look into this as soon as possible.

In regards to POA, please contact an attorney who specializes in elder law. Only your parents can change their POA. If your parents have difficulty understanding what is going on then you will need to petition for Guardianship of your parents. This can be a lengthy and expensive process, but you need to do what is best for your parents. Good Luck.
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The family doctor is not appropriate for dad at this time. He needs an elder care specialist. A Geriatrician.

Dad needs to do a new POA to invalidate the old one. You cannot do that. If dad is not capable of understanding you will need to seek guardianship through the courts.
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A COMPETENT individual GIVES his or her POWER OF ATTORNEY to someone who will honestly and fairly function AS the individual him or herself.

POWER OF ATTORNEY comes into effect when the individual becomes incompetent/unable to care for himself/herself.

ADVICE- contact LEGAL AID and ask for input recommendations.

Unless you have been told by a doctor who has SEEN YOUR FATHER IN PERSON, consider calling a municipal ambulance if available and have him taken to a public hospital. There is a REASON why his “doctor of 40 years will not take him back.”. Find out what the reason IS.
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To reiterate, you cannot change the POA your father has to choose to do that. Is he still competent to do that? You mention "other POAs". How many are there? The principle reason someone gives another their POA is so the agent will make decisions in the best interest of the grantor. Are the actions the POAs taking in dad's best interest? Does dad know this?
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You can download PoA paperwork from sites like Legalzoom.com and Rocketlawyer.com. They give you paperwork specific for your state and can review it for an extra fee (the paperwork costs about $40-ish). Your dad, you and I think witnesses will still need to have it notarized. This is just as legal as anything a lawyer draws up.

There is such a thing as a digital notary (done online) and it is legal, I've never used one and don't know how it works or how much it costs. I would call your father's bank to make sure they'd accept it (even though it is legal -- they may not be familiar enough with it).
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Joanne, just to clarify, you can't change any POA executed by someone else.   Only your father can.    You need to address this with him.
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Does your father have a dementia diagnosis? If he’s of sound mind he can revoke the existing POA and assign you as his POA. If he’s not mentally competent then you have will pursue guardianship through the court.
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gladimhere Nov 2020
And dad needs a geriatric specialist NOT a family practitioner.
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