I moved back in with my mom 5 years ago. In the last 5 years she has declined so badly she has a VERY hard time getting around. It's hard to get her to shower or go up stairs to use the restroom. I caught her using the restroom in cups? I was beside myself. Anytime I go anywhere she is always asking me questions. I feel I have no privacy and she doesn't want to fix up the house and it is falling apart. I need help. I attempted to move in to my BFF's house just 2 doors down a few years back and she got just NASTY about it. I have siblings but they all live out of town. I am stressed to the max. Resentful, depressed and just over it all. I have recently put in applications for homes and am waiting for response on my credit app. I don't know what to do. My mom still works but that is all she does. She comes home from work. Sits in her chair and stays there all day night watching tv etc... She actually woke me up out of a dead sleep the other day because someone was knocking and she wouldn't get off her butt to go look? She won't even go to the fridge to get her own water. She doesn't do ANYTHING for herself and I brace the brunt of it all. I am emotionally and mentally drained. My social and romantic life has struggled severly due to this. I am 36 and I want a relationship and to get married one day but how can I living here? I feel it is selfish of her to do this to me. I just don't know what to do.
If she is working she is capable of caring for herself.
When she pulls the, you just wish I would die, tell her no, I love you and want you to have a life and me being here obviously hinders that. You are only guilty if you are doing something wrong.
Go live in a weekly rental if you have to but it is past time to split the sheets with mom.
As others have stated just make arrangements and move out. If mom can work than she can take care of herself. Prehaps it would be better for her that you move out because than she will be force to do for herself. Do I dare to say, "you might be enabling her without realizing it!"
Just move out and live your life because their are so many of us who can't!
Maybe she feels like you need to move and is trying to make you uncomfortable enough to go.
How many kids do you have? Are they living with your mom as well? I love my grandkids but I don't want them living with me, I'm to old for the chaos kids bring.
I wouldn't want my 36 year old and her kids living off me. So I would be more blunt, you're a big girl, put on your big girl panties and get your own place. Bye!