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Why in the world should your mother continue to be subjected to bras?

They are gruesomely uncomfortable for our entire lives. Now all we are and have is gone and we STILL need to be harnessed into them?

I am 82. I am sorry. I'm with Mom. I am breastless on the right and I have had a lumpectomy that too quite a "bite" on the right. At home I NEVER wear bras now, and I refuse falsies even when out. Someone has something to say? I will just tell them "Sharkbite" with a shrug and get on with my day. I don't care how big-busted we are, at some age no one looks at us anymore ANYWAY.
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Beatty Aug 27, 2024
Sharkbite!
Love your style!
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My suggestion is to give your mother a break! Alzheimer's has already ruined her life, why ruin what's left of it by strapping her into a bra for no good reason??????? Who's being bothered by her "large breasts" unharnessed???
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When my mother was late stage I gave up on bras and just put mom in an undershirt and it was fine (I had asked her opinion and she was satisfied doing without).
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I put loose fitting tops on my Mom. She is immobile and has dementia. If support is needed I would try a tank top under a loose top. Too many other issues to deal with so we ditched the bras long ago.
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We had Mom wear the tank top undershirts instead of bras. Mom got cold so this helped with body temp too.
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Hi Tim,

I think it depends on personal preference.

DH aunt took her bra off when she retired in her 50s. She is a petite large breasted woman all about comfort. She wore men’s undershirts under cotton button down 3/4 sleeve blouses or pjs. Still does. Always with the undershirts. I tried camisoles, tank tops but the men’s undershirts were best and in a larger size than her blouses. Aunt wouldn’t wear any type of pullover shirt/sweater but didn’t mind the pull over undershirts possibly due to the deep neckline.

If I don’t wear a bra I suffer from back pain so I can understand going braless might not be an option for everyone.

My mom always wanted a bra.
Like your mom, at a certain point it was just too difficult. Because her finger tips were numb, she couldn’t manage buttons so preferred a pull over thicker cotton knit fabric. Some of her dressier outfits would include an open blouse/jacket. She liked jackets with pockets for her hanky/kleenex or readers. Lined blouses were an option she enjoyed. She wouldn’t wear the men’s undershirts. She had a fashion sense well into her 90s and knew she would look better in a bra but after a while was willing to let it go. Partially I think because she saw that we just couldn’t fit her properly.
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Tank tops used as an undershirt - may not support the weight of her breastw but it should be more comfortable than a bra - even the wireless can get uncomfortable. Good luck with Mom and to You - it's a rough road for sure. Take care.
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Mom was large and wore the tank top men’s t shirts loose . She used to tuck the t shirt fabric under her breasts to prevent rashes from sweat . It worked well . She was comfortable and happy with it . It was easier for her to dress . She could not even put a women’s tight tank on or sports bra because Mom’s arthritis in her shoulders was so bad she could only get loose tops on . She would wear a loose blouse and cardigan as well . It was fine .
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You could try sports bras for her. They are very comfortable. I wear them myself.

Or get her some tank tops to wear under her shirts. Or spandex camisole undershirts which offer some support.
There are options. What is she most comfortable with?

Years ago, I used to take care of an old lady who wore a corset every day. She would not go without it. She had been wearing one since she was a young woman and couldn't go without it. So I laced her up into her corset every morning.
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JoAnn29 Aug 27, 2024
I wear this Genie bras. Best thing. I have not worn a regular bra in years. They cut into me.
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I am a larger breasted woman, I would say do what your moms comfortable with.

But for me honestly, I'm more comfortable with a bra, so my opinion may be a bit different than others.

But honestly I need a bit of support. But some may not so I can't stress enough to let your mom wear what's comfortable for her.

I for around the house or if I'm sick, like loss fitting sports bras, actually for comfort, the cheaper the better.

I will also say they make tank like undershirts, I think they are more for the younger generation, that are smaller in size, but they have a small braish shelf like in them that gives some support.

Best of luck
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