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I am married to a man who is the oldest of three siblings (all boys) my husband knows of a medical issue pertaining to their father. He said he tried to talk to the younger boys but he said they didn’t want to hear what he has to say about their father. I suggested he try again and tell them because the younger siblings need to know. Their father has started showing memory issues which brings the topic more to the fore front. I keep suggesting he try again but he hasn’t and told me that they didn’t want to hear it or accept that their father is getting older.

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I doubt that they don’t want to accept that their father’s getting older. It’s to their advantage not to listen, so they don’t need to do anything to help.
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It's a guess - are you talking about an inherited condition like Huntington's or something?

Based on the little you've described so far, your wisest course of action is to zip it. But what potential consequences do you think might arise from their ignorance?
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Call a family meeting so your DH can sit the brothers down & have a heart-to-heart talk about dad's health issues, which is dementia/ALZ since your profile indicates as much, and since you've put your question under that category.

Does your DH have dad's medical and financial POA? Hopefully so, b/c once an official diagnosis has been made, POA can be quite difficult or impossible to obtain.

What I have found from reading this forum for years is that A LOT of men are in denial about dementia for their parent(s). They just have a very hard time believing their invincible parent(s) could possibly be suffering from the dreaded d-e-m-e-n-t-i-a or Alzheimer's and refuse to wrap their minds around it. Until it becomes so obvious that dad is wandering down the street naked or something equally in-your-face. A family meeting to discuss the reality of what's happening and down-the-road care and management of dad is what's needed and required moving forward. Whether the 'boys' like it or not is irrelevant: the truth must be spoken out loud.

Best of luck!
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Mgilley Apr 2022
My hubby doesn’t have a POA but I’ve noticed all his brothers are asking me what’s going on with their dad. My SIL knows but she feels it’s my hubby job to tell his brothers. I have been trying to urge him to do it he’s just so stubborn about it.
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It is not your husband's job to tell the others. If dad wants them to know, dad should do the telling.

In fact, if your hubs is the POA, it is a violation of the POA to tell anyone.

Job of POA is to keep information private.
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If he has tried and they don't want to listen then its on them. Tell the SIL to tell her husband because your husband tried to and her DH would not listen.

When ur asked what is wrong with Dad, tell them that ur DH tried to tell them and they didn't seem interested then send them to your husband.

Do not pressure your husband. Are you caring for FIL in ur home?
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Mgilley Apr 2022
My FIL is at his own home with my MIL who’s health is also declining.
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