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I show bedroom pictures that are on the walls. We walk through the house room to room, back yard, front yard but its not working. Thank you for your time.
Take it as a blessing since it will help you feel less guilty if you need to place her in a facility at some point. My mom didn't recognize her own home either. She thought she was in a facility. That was a real mind blower for us in the very beginning of this disease, before we even knew she had dementia! How could someone not recognize where they had lived for the past 40 years?!!! When it got too much for us, mentally, emotionally and physically, to try to keep her at home, we decided if she didn't know she was already there, it wouldn't be a big deal to move her to memory care, which we did.
Rather than trying to explain why this is her home, you should try redirecting your mother to another activity such as getting a snack, taking a walk, looking at photos, or folding towels or washcloths. It's unlikely you'll get her to understand that she's already in her home, because her reasoning skills are now gone. Changing the subject is a much better approach than trying to explain the situation. There are many ways for a dementia sufferer to express anxiety, and this is perhaps one of them.
A good method of comfort for many women is to have a baby doll to hold and cuddle. Lots of women (mostly) enjoy swaddling the baby dolls and rocking them; caring for them as they once did as young mothers. This may provide your mother some comfort and is definitely worth a try!
Also, it's a good idea to check out this website for lots of useful information & tips about Alzheimer's and dementia:
hi LoveMom2020, I would do the same thing with my mom, show her every photo, say see mom this is your dresser, etc.. she just passed in Dec. I never thought about doing what cwillie suggested, That is a great suggestion.. "I know it's not your home mom but it's where we live now, or it's where we are staying let's go check out the kitchen.." I wish I would've had this answer 5 months ago. hugs, prayers and best of luck to you LoveMom!
Showing her that everything is in the same place as it was yesterday isn't helping because the home she has in her mind isn't the one she is living in now- in her mind she may still be a child in her parent's home, or a young wife in her first home, or any of the other times and places from her past. Instead of trying to convince her figure out a way to placate and redirect her - "oh, isn't this a nice comfortable place though? Did you sleep well? Come on to the kitchen and we'll get some breakfast". Easier said than done I know.
I’m so sorry that you are going through this. I only have experience with my godmother dealing with Alzheimer’s. She eventually had to go into a nursing home.
Others on this site have Alzheimer’s parents at home and they can advise you how they handle situations like yours.
Best wishes to you. Stick around. There are lots of helpful people on this site.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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A good method of comfort for many women is to have a baby doll to hold and cuddle. Lots of women (mostly) enjoy swaddling the baby dolls and rocking them; caring for them as they once did as young mothers. This may provide your mother some comfort and is definitely worth a try!
Also, it's a good idea to check out this website for lots of useful information & tips about Alzheimer's and dementia:
https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers
Best of luck!
Others on this site have Alzheimer’s parents at home and they can advise you how they handle situations like yours.
Best wishes to you. Stick around. There are lots of helpful people on this site.